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EPISODE · Jun 1, 2026 · 16 MIN

I’m Only Okay If You’re Okay (Codependency Podcast Series)

from The Secure Husband · host M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC

What if your emotional state depends on your wife’s emotional state?In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we begin a new series on codependency and the hidden belief many men carry:“I’m okay only if she is okay.”Many men do not see themselves as codependent. They see themselves as loyal, helpful, responsible, and self-sacrificing. But underneath that can be fear, anxiety, people pleasing, and self abandonment.In this episode we talk about:How codependency shows up in marriageWhy anxiety and codependency often go togetherHow childhood patterns become adult relationship patternsWhy self abandonment feels like loveHow codependency affects attraction and sexless marriagesWhat healing looks like through the Secure Husband processWe also set the stage for this month’s series as we go deeper into boundaries, fear of abandonment, nervous system work, people pleasing, and healing.If this connects with you, sign up for a free 30-minute consultation. This is just a conversation about what is happening in your marriage and how coaching might work for you. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just seeing if it is a good fit and how I can help.Learn more at: SecureHusband.com#Codependency #MarriageHelp #AttachmentStyle #MensMentalHealth #SecureHusbandIf you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#attachmentstylesAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

What if your emotional state depends on your wife’s emotional state?In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we begin a new series on codependency and the hidden belief many men carry:“I’m okay only if she is okay.”Many men do not see themselves as codependent. They see themselves as loyal, helpful, responsible, and self-sacrificing. But underneath that can be fear, anxiety, people pleasing, and self abandonment.In this episode we talk about:How codependency shows up in marriageWhy anxiety and codependency often go togetherHow childhood patterns become adult relationship patternsWhy self abandonment feels like loveHow codependency affects attraction and sexless marriagesWhat healing looks like through the Secure Husband processWe also set the stage for this month’s series as we go deeper into boundaries, fear of abandonment, nervous system work, people pleasing, and healing.If this connects with you, sign up for a free 30-minute consultation. This is just a conversation about what is happening in your marriage and how coaching might work for you. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just seeing if it is a good fit and how I can help.Learn more at: SecureHusband.com#Codependency #MarriageHelp #AttachmentStyle #MensMentalHealth #SecureHusbandIf you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#attachmentstylesAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

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