I'm Sick of Grief Taking So Much Away From Me

This week, I'm sitting down with Sylvia Wolfer, a grief-informed practitioner who has experienced loss on a level that's hard to wrap your head around. She lost her father at seven. Her younger brother at 17. Her older brother at 40. And then her mother a few years later. From a family of six, only Sylvia and one brother remain.What makes this conversation different is how Sylvia has turned all of that loss into something she can actually use. Not just for herself, but for others. After years of being ambushed by grief triggers, she got angry. Not at the loss itself, but at how much grief had taken from her. She felt like she had missed out on time with her older brother because she was still so buried in grief from her younger brother's death. When he died too, something shifted. She decided she was done letting grief run the show.We talk about the neuroscience of grief, what's actually happening in the brain when we lose someone, and why understanding that can be strangely comforting. Sylvia explains the three-dimensional map the brain uses for relationships and why we still reach for the phone to call someone who's gone. She also shares practical tools for managing grief triggers, tending to the body when the heart and mind are overwhelmed, and why she schedules time to grieve on her own terms.This one gets into the science, but it never loses the human side. Sylvia is warm, honest, and somehow still full of love for life after everything she's been through. If you've ever felt like grief has taken too much from you, this conversation might help you start taking some of it back.We get into:what it was like losing her father suddenly at seven years oldthe gift her dad's death gave her, seeing the good in peoplewhy sudden loss is especially hard on the brainthe three-dimensional map and why we still want to call people who are gonehow she realized her nervous system was completely dysregulatedthe window of tolerance and how grief shrinks itwhy she schedules time to grieve instead of letting it ambush hertending to the body when the head and heart are too overwhelmedhow she continues relationships with people who are no longer hereher digital courses, guided meditations, and writing on griefSylvia's story is proof that grief doesn't have to take everything. Sometimes, it can be the thing that finally makes you fight back.🌐 Learn more about Sylvia's work: https://sylviawolfer.com 📸 Follow Sylvia on Instagram Learn more about Robert DelFave’s grief coaching and writingWebsite: robertdelfave.comGrief coaching: robertdelfave.com/coachingSchedule a complimentary Grief Map Session: Book a Grief Map SessionThe Other Side of This: robertdelfave.com/bookContact: [email protected] Carried Forward Podcast is hosted by Robert DelFave, grief coach, David Kessler Certified Grief Educator, and author of The Other Side of This.