Improve your sex life with the STARS talk

STARS is an easy-to-remember acronym for conversations that lead to awesome consensual sex. Dr. Evelin Dacker developed the STARS method to create a way for potential and current partners to have a thorough and safe conversation about physical and relationship expectations. What is the STARS conversation? Plus, if you've had it before, you should have it again. Dr. Evelin Dacker explains sex positivity. As she engaged in health research earlier in her career, she realized there's a total lack of sex talk in the field. Leah shares an experience she had at her first small group portion of a STARS class. When asked to share what her turn-ons and avoids were, she burst into tears and couldn't speak. Dr. Dacker breaks down each letter in STARS, and what those categories encompass. For example, dealing with shame and stigma are a part of the STI portion of the talk. Avoids are often boundaries related to trauma and fear; they may not be forever fixed. Also, don't wait to talk about them until you're heavy in the bedroom and unable to clearly hear your partner! Leah demonstrates a full STARS talk with her friend Ray.   Mentioned in this episode: havetimeforthetalk.com – The online home for the STARS talk   Update:  Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now: Book a FREE no-pressure intro consultation Keep up to date and get your FREE Three-Minute Game All my classes and downloads are at my store Any audio extras for this episode on the Good Girls Talk About Sex website Here's everything I'm up to today I no longer use Patreon — you can now support my work on Substack   EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak