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EPISODE · Jan 19, 2026 · 1H 14M

Infidelity, Trauma Bonds & When To Walk Away From a 20-Year Marriage To Be Better Podcast S4 E3

from 2 Be Better · host Chris Burkett

Part 2In this episode of the To Be Better podcast, Chris and Peaches dive deep into a raw, unfiltered 20-year marriage story filled with childhood trauma, family chaos, serial infidelity, emotional cheating, open relationships, and failed poly experiments. They read a powerful email from a wife questioning whether she’s still compatible with her husband after decades of betrayal, gaslighting, and weaponized empathy, and explore how trauma bonds, chaos addiction, and unhealed wounds keep people trapped in relationships that no longer feel safe. Along the way they tackle topics like alexithymia, ADHD, autism, nervous system responses, hypervigilance, and how undiagnosed neurodivergence can impact communication, trust, intimacy, and long-term commitment. You’ll hear blunt, practical relationship advice on rebuilding or finally walking away: when to stop giving more chances, how to protect your peace, what emotional cheating actually looks like, how to set non-negotiable boundaries, and why “life experience over degrees” matters in real-world marriage problems. Chris and Peaches break down victim accountability, people pleasing, choosing stability over chaos, and how to create a truly monogamous relationship after years of betrayal. If you’re searching for honest conversations about marriage, infidelity recovery, long-term relationships, couples communication, spiritual growth, and becoming a better partner, this is your episode.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Part 2In this episode of the To Be Better podcast, Chris and Peaches dive deep into a raw, unfiltered 20-year marriage story filled with childhood trauma, family chaos, serial infidelity, emotional cheating, open relationships, and failed poly experiments. They read a powerful email from a wife questioning whether she’s still compatible with her husband after decades of betrayal, gaslighting, and weaponized empathy, and explore how trauma bonds, chaos addiction, and unhealed wounds keep people trapped in relationships that no longer feel safe. Along the way they tackle topics like alexithymia, ADHD, autism, nervous system responses, hypervigilance, and how undiagnosed neurodivergence can impact communication, trust, intimacy, and long-term commitment. You’ll hear blunt, practical relationship advice on rebuilding or finally walking away: when to stop giving more chances, how to protect your peace, what emotional cheating actually looks like, how to set non-negotiable boundaries, and why “life experience over degrees” matters in real-world marriage problems. Chris and Peaches break down victim accountability, people pleasing, choosing stability over chaos, and how to create a truly monogamous relationship after years of betrayal. If you’re searching for honest conversations about marriage, infidelity recovery, long-term relationships, couples communication, spiritual growth, and becoming a better partner, this is your episode.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

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