Inside The Queen’s Code and Understanding Men with Alison Armstrong

Tony and Brent sit down with legendary author and relationship educator Alison Armstrong—creator of The Queen’s Code and Understanding Men—for a raw, hilarious, and deeply insightful conversation on how men and women relate (and often misrelate).From emotional safety to appreciation, from how women unknowingly disempower men to the oxytocin-fueled rollercoaster of texting, this episode dives deep. It opens with a playful game of “What Would a Queen Do?” and closes with Alison sharing the life mission that’s fueled her work for over three decades. Whether you're single, dating, married, or just trying to communicate better, Alison delivers one revelation after another—with humor, clarity, and a grounded wisdom that feels like talking to an old friend. Hands down, one of the most powerful episodes we’ve ever recorded.Key Topics Covered● Why men feel like they’re “always in trouble”● How women unintentionally sabotage connection● The truth about honesty, appreciation, and emotional safety● Why men stop telling the truth (and how to fix it)● Texting, oxytocin, and how chemistry becomes addictive● The four qualities men look for in a life partner● The hidden cost of women leading with anger● Queen energy vs. control tactics● How women can set men up to win—and why it mattersChapters00:01:00 – Game time: What Would a Queen Do?00:07:00 – “Men are used to being in trouble”00:12:30 – Why you can’t trust men to tell the truth00:20:45 – Women’s fear vs. men’s fear00:27:30 – Chemistry is addictive—but it can be created00:34:00 – Understanding how men define winning00:45:00 – How women unknowingly emasculate men00:55:00 – The four most attractive qualities in a woman01:03:00 – Queen mindset vs. common relationship traps01:12:00 – Why appreciation has to match the currency01:26:00 – A message to the younger generation01:43:00 – What Alison does next—and how to work with herLinks & ResourcesWebsite:https://www.alisonarmstrong.comFree Book: Making Sense of MenUse code AlisonGift2025 at checkout:https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/products/making-sense-of-menYouTube Channel (66+ free videos including Chemistry & Connection series):https://www.youtube.com/@AlisonArmstrongVideosInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/thealisonarmstrong/The Queen’s Code Audiobook & Journey:https://www.alisonarmstrong.comSubscribe & Follow the PodcastSpotify:https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/twofunguyspodcastInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/twofunguyspodcastTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@twofunguyspodcast