Is It Love—Or Just Self-Abandonment?

Send us Fan Mail🔗 Join the masterclass with Dr Amen KaurIf you've ever caught yourself smiling while your soul is breaking, saying “yes” when your whole body screams “no,” or shape-shifting just to feel wanted—this episode is going to hit deep.What you’re calling love might actually be a survival response. A trauma pattern. A lifetime of abandoning yourself just to be chosen.Martha Beck calls it “the split”—the moment you bury your truth to belong. And science backs it up: chronic anxiety, exhaustion, mysterious illnesses, and that aching emptiness after success… they’re not random. They’re your soul’s alarm bells, begging you to come home to yourself.In this episode, I’m breaking down:Why self-abandonment masquerades as loveHow trauma trains us to perform instead of connectWhat your symptoms are really trying to tell youAnd how to start your return to integrity, truth, and unshakable self-worthYou’re not broken. You’re just tired of living in a world that taught you to betray yourself to be loved.And once you reclaim your truth, everything changes—your nervous system softens, your relationships shift, and the life you've always dreamed of stops feeling so far away.Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence FrameworkA walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclassAbout Dr Amen KaurStarting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.Learn more at amenkaur.com/aboutStay CloseInstagram: @dramenkaurTikTok: @dramenkaurYouTube: @dramenkaurDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.