Is it Selfish to prioritize Pleasure

This episode explores why pleasure is not a reward to be earned, but a basic part of being alive. Faye Savery unpacks how guilt around rest, receiving, and wanting more is often learned rather than innate, and why that pattern shows up in everything from compliments to money to visibility.The core idea is simple but powerful: pleasure is not the opposite of responsibility. It can actually refill your capacity, regulate your nervous system, and make you more present for your life.Join the Sovereign Woman Waitlist HereKey topics• Faye Savery explains why many women have been taught that pleasure must be earned after work, caregiving, productivity, or usefulness.• She reframes guilt around rest and enjoyment as conditioning, not personality.• The episode connects pleasure with receiving, asking whether you can accept compliments, support, money, rest, and attention without contracting.• Faye discusses how “wanting more” can coexist with fear of actually holding more.• She distinguishes between healthy ambition and using work to avoid yourself.• A key theme is that pleasure can refill productivity instead of draining it.• She brings in embodied and tantric principles, emphasizing that the body matters, not just the mind.• The episode includes practical micro-practices for noticing tension, pausing, and staying with good feelings for a few extra seconds.• Faye links pleasure and abundance through the question: can I allow myself to receive what I’m asking for?• She closes by encouraging listeners to stop treating rest and pleasure as something they must justify.Timestamps00:00 - Is prioritising pleasure selfish? 01:01 - Pleasure as something women are taught to earn 01:53 - How guilt around wanting more gets conditioned 03:06 - Why receiving can feel unsafe 04:04 - Pleasure as a capacity to receive 05:32 - Responsibility without self-abandonment 06:26 - Pleasure as fuel for productivity 07:26 - Embodiment, tantra, and why the body matters 08:47 - A simple practice for noticing pleasurable moments 10:03 - Practicing receiving a compliment without deflecting 10:59 - Abundance as the ability to hold more 12:21 - Start small instead of forcing perfection 13:33 - Pleasure, responsibility, and ambition are not opposites 14:32 - The deeper work behind safety, power, and receiving 15:54 - You do not have to earn beautiful momentsAction items• Notice when you flinch at something good.• Pause for three seconds when pleasure appears.• Practice saying “thank you” without deflecting a compliment.• Observe whether your body softens or contracts when you receive.