Is She Doing It Because She Wants To… or Because I Do?

Send us Fan MailCoach DTM, KD, and Keke…My wife and I have been together for years, and early in our marriage I admitted that I’d always been curious about having threesomes.At first she wasn’t interested, but eventually she agreed because she wanted to make me happy. We’ve had a few experiences together, but lately something doesn’t feel right.She never brings it up herself.She never seems excited beforehand.If I don’t mention it, it never happens.Whenever I ask if she’s enjoying herself, she says she’s fine and tells me she’s doing it because she loves me.But that’s exactly what’s bothering me.I don’t want my wife doing something intimate just to keep me happy. I want to know she’s genuinely comfortable and wants it too. Now I’m wondering if I’ve unintentionally pressured her simply because she loves me.She insists everything is okay, but my gut keeps telling me otherwise.If your spouse is only participating to make you happy, is that enough? Or should both people genuinely want it before it becomes a healthy part of the relationship?Support the show