Is Suffering Necessary? (Matthew Files)

There are aspects of suffering that may not be necessary, such as “luxury suffering.” Luxury suffering may be defined as self-observation while judging ourselves. Judgment can be positive or negative. Trying to avoid things or make them better is suffering. Constantly watching the news can keep suffering in place. Without seeing the extreme state of the world so regularly in the media, we might be more aware of the suffering that’s closer to us—our own and that of the people around us. The world may not be in a worse condition than it’s ever been. Pain and suffering are different. We suffer when we do not accept the here and now, such as when we want things to be different than they are and when we only want things that make us feel good. The distinction between troubles and problems which are real problems is considered. Since we live in luxury relative to many people in the world, our suffering is going to be luxury suffering. This kind of suffering, which we can do something about, drains our energy. Work on the path may involve intentional suffering, such as enduring the displeasing manifestations of others. The primal event of suffering is incarnation since we identify as our names and bodies. We suffer the illusion of me-ness because we don’t know our true nature, who we really are. Everyone suffers and no one can fix another’s suffering. Our suffering does not come from an event that happened to us in life that therapy can fix. Awareness and transformation are not the same thing. We cling to suffering as a facet of our identity. Compassion does not need to have a nice face to it. In this talk, there are interactions between Matthew and attendees about different perspectives on relating to suffering. Matthew Files facilitates groups that support people to look deeper into their process, formulate their own questions, and become responsible for their choices.