Is Trauma Behind Your Dating Patterns? | Ep. 192

In this episode, I sit down with Owen to explore how unresolved trauma can quietly impact our dating lives, relationships, and even our ability to speak up for ourselves.We talk about how to recognize when you may be stuck in an emotional pattern, the three major categories of trauma, and why even highly successful people can struggle with assertiveness and relationships.Owen also shares how long-term singles can shift their mindset around dating, why optimizing your physical health through sleep, exercise, and self-care matters, and how painful relationship patterns form and can be resolved.Most importantly, we discuss what to look for in a partner beyond chemistry: someone who is emotionally open, willing to work on themselves, and committed to growing together.If you’ve ever wondered why you keep experiencing the same patterns in dating, this conversation may help you look at relationships from an entirely different perspective.0:00 Introduction to Owen 3:34 How do you know you have trauma symptoms?6:30 Anyone who has sought help with therapy coaching or done the work are more open to Peak Therapy7:20 If you are always saying the same thing in your life, you are stuck9:54 Successful people not assertive12:15 Three major categories of trauma15:01 How can a long time single have a better mindset with dating life?19:10 Do as much for your body as you can: sleep, working out, optimize your body20:39 https://gift.optimize-consciousness.com/ for healing processes for dating22:00 Someone who wears their heart on sleeve is best for Peak State Therapy23:56 Painful relationship patterns form and how to resolve28:30 Find someone who wants to better themselves29:52 Both want to continuously want to growOwen Smithyman works with self-aware people who have done thetherapy, somatic work, or plant medicine and still feelsomething quietly running in the background. ThroughPeak States Therapy, he helps clients explorepermanent emotional resolution, authenticrelationships, and a fuller voice in life.https://optimize-consciousness.comFind Owen on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Facebook  @optimizeconsciousness  Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/profileCall May for help: (310) 867-0851Email: [email protected]: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermayTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asianmatchmaker88LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIAN DATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May talks about all things dating and Asian dating. She’s super nosy about people’s love lives and just loves love. May is a Professional Matchmaker and Dating Coach. May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York. May’s insights and work have been featured in major media outlets including Maxim, NY Post, Cosmopolitan, Los Angeles Magazine, Thrillist, and Huffington Post, establishing her as a go-to expert in love, dating, and human connection.*AMAZON BEST SELLER* Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_FKWJGPCVXW3XG8D98EWB