Is your comparison helpful? Or hurtful?

A little story about my son and his experience with lacrosse- Is your comparison helping to motivate you? Or is it making you feel dissatisfied or sad? Psychology today  “People constantly evaluate themselves, and others, in domains like attractiveness, wealth, intelligence, and success. According to some studies, as much as 10 percent of our thoughts involve comparisons of some kind. Social comparison theory is the idea that individuals determine their own social and personal worth based on how they stack up against others. The theory was developed in 1954 by psychologist Leon Festinger. Later research has shown that people who regularly compare themselves to others may find motivation to improve, but may also experience feelings of deep dissatisfaction, guilt, or remorse, and engage in destructive behaviors like lying or disordered eating.” And a tiny little dip into neuroplasticity https://maximus.com/the-brain-our-habits