Is Your Libido MIA?

Has touch and connection quietly slipped off your radar since menopause? You're not alone—and you are not broken.In this heartfelt episode of The Midlife Reset Podcast, I’m joined by Dr. Sadaf Lodhi, a gynecologist and intimacy coach who helps midlife women reconnect with pleasure, confidence, and their sexual selves. We talk vaginal dryness, tanked libido, societal shame, and why midlife is actually the perfect time to unleash your inner goddess. Whether you're partnered or solo, you deserve thriving intimacy—and this conversation is a beautiful place to begin.As women in midlife, many of the obvious ways we used to experience love and connection have faded or shifted. And yet, love remains essential. I’ve explored this in Episode 7, where I dive into the link between love, connection, and even weight loss.Dr. Lodhi brings over 20 years of experience and offers both online and in-person care. A graduate of the University of Michigan, she specializes in personalized gynecology and intimacy coaching. Today, she’s redefining care for midlife women through her innovative concierge practice.We dive into:* Why vaginal dryness and decreased libido are common (not just “in your head”)* How hormonal shifts—particularly the decline in estrogen and testosterone—impact intimacy, comfort, and desire* The importance and benefits of hormone therapy (including vaginal estrogen), especially when started within 10 years of menopause* The outdated fear surrounding hormone therapy, particularly from the 2002 WHI study, and the latest insights from the FDA’s recent discussion on removing black box warnings from vaginal estrogen* How estrogen impacts not just sexual health but bone density, brain health, cardiovascular function, and moreDr. Lodhi also explains her concierge model: more time with patients, same-week appointments, and real access—something many women struggle to find with traditional care. Her clients often seek support for hormone therapy, low libido, and issues like vaginal pain, tight pelvic floor, or loss of orgasm—all topics many are too embarrassed to bring up.We also discuss the shame and stigma around sexuality that many of us inherited, and how to change that narrative for ourselves and future generations. Dr. Lodhi shares candidly about being a mom of three boys, and how she creates an open, safe space for questions—even the awkward ones.As we wrap up, we touch on the solo journey. If you're not currently partnered, should you care about your sexual health? Her answer: absolutely, if it matters to you. If connection, pleasure, and sensation are important to your quality of life, they are worth prioritizing—regardless of your relationship status.Get a FREE yoga class designed to help you balance your hormones.  It supports stress reduction and reconnection with your body—a foundational step in restoring sexual vitality. Yoga has even been shown in research to enhance sexual health and function.Contact Dr. Lodhi. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cherylgordonyt.substack.com