It Runs In the Kingdom: Late Diagnosed AuDHD and 4 Neurodivergent Kids - A Conversation with Tracy King

Send us Fan MailGuest: Tracy KingLength: 35:28Episode SummaryTracy shares their experience of receiving a disability diagnosis later in life—and how that moment helped reframe decades of masking, overcompensating, and trying to “fit” into professional and social expectations. Together, Tracy and Hollis explore the emotional reality of invisible disability, the complications of disclosure, and what real inclusion looks like beyond performative policies. Tracy also explains how this journey shaped their parenting and inspired the creation of Inspire Ed, a company focused on helping workplaces become genuinely accessible and inclusive.In the closing minutes, they broaden the conversation to the way autistic people and people “on the spectrum” are represented in social culture—what that portrayal gets wrong, what it leaves out, and why better representation matters.Key Topics Covered•Late diagnosis and the emotional aftermath (relief, grief, clarity, anger)•The hidden cost of masking and “passing” at work•Invisible disability and the burden of having to prove your needs•Disclosure decisions: when to share, how much to share, and why it’s complicated•Workplace culture vs. workplace policy: why inclusion fails without both•Building environments where people can work in ways that actually suit them•Parenting with new awareness: unlearning coping strategies and breaking cycles•Advocacy fatigue and navigating systems built for skepticism•The founding of Inspire Ed and the mission behind it•Representation of people on the spectrum in social culture (media tropes, stereotypes, and who gets left out)What You'll Learn1) A diagnosis can change the story you tell about yourselfA late diagnosis didn’t “change” who Tracy was—but changed how they understood their history, behaviours, limits, and needs.2) Masking is often rewarded—until it’s unsustainableMany workplaces unintentionally reward masking (productivity, professionalism, “resilience”), while the long-term cost goes unseen.3) Invisible disability creates a unique credibility problemWhen disability isn’t visible, people are often forced into repeated explanation and justification, which is exhausting and can be dehumanizing.4) Inclusion isn’t just accommodations—it’s culturePolicies matter, but culture determines whether people feel safe using them. Real inclusion is proactive design, not reactive exceptions.5) Self-awareness reshapes parentingRecognizing one’s own coping patterns can help prevent unhelpful cycles from being passed down and make room for healthier support.Resources & Links•Inspire Ed (Tracy’s organization): https://www.inspired-ed.com/• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracykingceo/ - Connect with us on social media to share your thoughts about this episode.     Instagram: @21stcenturydisabilityFacebook: Twenty-First Century DisabilityBluesky: @21centdisability.bsky.socialTikTok: @21stcenturydisabilityLinkedIn: Hollis Peirce- Use the hashtag #21stCenturyDisability to join the discussion online.Subscribe to our newsletter for updates on upcoming episodes and events by clicking here: https://www.21stcenturydisability.com/contact!