It's not your mind that's stuck. It's your body.

Send us Fan MailYou've done the work. You know it's over. So why can't you let go?If you're capable, accomplished, and still stuck in an old identity, a career, a relationship, a version of you that no longer fits, this episode names the one thing no one talks about.It isn't fear. It isn't lack of clarity. It isn't that you're not ready.It's judgment, and it's held in your body, not your mind.In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur names why high-achieving women stay glued to the old life even when they know it's hurting them, and why "thinking your way out" doesn't work. Drawing on the neuroscience of Stephen Porges (polyvagal theory and neuroception), Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score), and Kristin Neff's research on self-compassion, she shows why your nervous system runs the old programme until it gets a new experience, and how compassion (not positive thinking) is the actual release.In this episode:Why "I know but I can't move" is a body problem, not a mindset problemThe two layers of judgment keeping you stuck (and which one is louder)Why affirmations don't land when your body is in survivalThe marathon analogy: why your body refuses to start a race it hasn't trained forThe handbrake metaphor: there's nothing wrong with your engineHow self-compassion lowers cortisol and brings the thinking brain back onlineOne question to ask the next time you feel that grip in your bodyFree masterclass: learn how to retrain your body to move forward. Link in the show notes below.If this episode landed, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who needs to hear it.Dr. Amen KaurKey quotes"Your mind wants to do it, but your body is stuck. And they run on two completely different systems.""Judgment is the glue to the old identity.""The opposite of judgment is not positive thinking. It's compassion.""You can press the accelerator all you want. If the handbrake's on, you're not going anywhere."Mentioned in this episodeStephen Porges — Polyvagal Theory and neuroceptionBessel van der Kolk — The Body Keeps the ScoreKristin Neff — Self-compassion research (University of Texas)Free Masterclass Retrain your body to move forward, even when your mind has been ready for a long time. amenkaur.com/masterclassConnect with Dr. Amen KaurInstagram: @dramenkaurYoutube: @dramenkaurNew on Substack: https://dramenkaur.substack.com/ If this episode helped you:Subscribe so you don't miss the next oneLeave a review: it helps other women find the showShare this with the friend who's been "doing all the work"Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence FrameworkA walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclassAbout Dr Amen KaurStarting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.Learn more at amenkaur.com/aboutStay CloseInstagram: @dramenkaurTikTok: @dramenkaurYouTube: @dramenkaurDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.