Jaymie Gerena: Overcoming Childhood Trauma as a Mother

Childhood trauma can really impact how we show up as mothers.Even if you’ve done a lot of work on it, the memory and wound is there. Part of the motherload includes combating these unconscious behaviors, patterns, and beliefs that play out in our lives — some of which we’re aware of, some not.Today I’m with my friend Jaymie Gerena, a transformational strategist, master NLP practitioner, and mother of three children. She’s a survivor of child abuse and sexual and physical abuse and has been featured in many publications for her work helping women heal trauma and grow soul-aligned businesses.In this episode, Jaymie and I discuss finding identity after abuse – for her it involved consciously approaching life and motherhood with a sense of building safety instead of hypervigilance – and approaching controversial topics within our families.This conversation is so important because when we’re rooted in our identities as mothers, it’s easier to hold space for uncomfortable conversations and be confident in our beliefs – which consequently makes us better versions of ourselves, too.In this episode you’ll hear about:Jaymie’s background: her traumatic childhood; losing her father and brother due to drugs and gang violence, respectively; and becoming a mom at age 20How Tony Robbins and personal development changed her life – and how that ultimately affected how she parented, tooJaymie’s advice: make a list of where you want to be and where you are now; then, figure out how to fill the gaps to get to that version of your future selfBeing the victor instead of the victim and CHOOSING what to take forward, what to leave behind; what matters is how we move forwardTaking audits of our days and relying on intuition in our choices as parents vs. researching different points of view against what we innately feelPracticing being uncomfortable and holding safe places to have hard conversations with other mothers, whether they agree with you or notResources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at [email protected]. The book that “changed the game” for Jaymie: On Fire: the 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically-Inspired Life  by John O’Leary. She also mentioned enjoying meditation by Dr. Joe Dispenza on YouTube. Be sure to follow Jaymie on Instagram and check out her website.  Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.