EPISODE · Apr 23, 2026 · 17 MIN
Jealousy, Boundaries, and the Things You’re Afraid to Ask For, EP. 155
from Nope! We're Not Monogamous · host Ellecia Paine
Have you ever felt jealous… but underneath it was resentment?Maybe you said you were fine. Tried to be chill. Tried to be supportive. Tried not to be “too much.”But deep down, something didn’t feel good, and instead of naming it, asking for what you needed, or honoring your discomfort… you pushed it down.Then jealousy showed up carrying all of it.In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m talking about the connection between jealousy and boundaries, and why jealousy often gets louder when you’ve been ignoring yourself. We get into:→ why jealousy is often information, not a verdict → how unmet needs can turn into resentment → the difference between boundaries and control → why speaking up can feel so scary → how to ask what jealousy may be asking you to honor → why honesty creates real securityIf you’ve ever struggled to ask for what you need, felt guilty having boundaries, or tried to be the “cool” partner while quietly hurting, this episode is for you.If jealousy has been running the show, this is exactly why I created Beyond Jealousy, to help you feel more secure, self-trusting, and grounded in love.💜 Learn more about Beyond Jealousy: www.elleciapaine.com/jealousySend us Fan MailSupport the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237
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Have you ever felt jealous… but underneath it was resentment? Maybe you said you were fine. Tried to be chill. Tried to be supportive. Tried not to be “too much.” But deep down, something didn’t feel good, and instead of naming it, asking for what you needed, or honoring your discomfort… you pushed it down. Then jealousy showed up carrying all of it. In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m talking about the connection between jealousy and boundaries, and why jealousy often gets lou...
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