Jealousy Is Shame in Disguise (And That Changes Everything) Ep. 142

Jealousy isn’t a flaw. It’s not a failure.And it’s almost never about your partner.In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, Ellecia unpacks a powerful realization sparked by reading Financial Feminist:the way we experience jealousy is strikingly similar to the way we experience money shame.Both are rooted in scarcity.Both are tied to safety, worth, and fear of loss.And both get way more painful when we shame ourselves for feeling them.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why jealousy is often rooted in shame, not insecurity or immaturityHow scarcity brain shows up in relationships, especially non-monogamous onesWhy non-monogamy doesn’t create jealousy, it reveals where safety was never taughtThe difference between trying to “fix” jealousy and actually listening to itHow to stop abandoning yourself when jealousy hitsA gentle somatic practice to bring your nervous system back online in the momentEllecia also shares why she’s been diving deeper into financial education, and how living outside the box, in relationships, careers, and family structures, requires us to build security intentionally instead of relying on default scripts.If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I like this?” when jealousy shows up, this episode offers a compassionate reframe that might change everything.Send us Fan MailSupport the show📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online🌍 Website:  https://www.elleciapaine.com📘 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar LindsteinSTIM IPI: 572 393 237