Jealousy, Selfishness and Polyamory

Our first Ask Thom Anything episode was such a hit that we’re making it a regular feature. In this episode, Thom talks about how to respond to the jealousy of others when we’re following our own evolutionary path, including a delightful background story to how Guru Dev stubbornly followed his own evolutionary path at a very young age. He also discusses the self-love trend and how to recognize the distinction between self-ish-ness and Self-ness. Polyamory and monogamy are also addressed, with Thom taking the opportunity to outline the role of a ‘love alliance’ and shared mission in intimate relationships. If you’d like to have Thom answer a question on the podcast, you can submit your questions here. Episode Highlights: [00:57] Q - How Do We Balance Following Our Own Charm With Jealousy That Might Arise In Others [02:22] We Can’t Control the Experience of Others [03:05] Jealousy Is… [04:38] Envy Gone Horribly Wrong [06:04] A Pathetic Consciousness State [07:38] I Have to Go to the Himalayas [08:59] Running Away From Home (At the Age of Six!) [10:07] The Shankaracharya [11:30] They Have to Trust That You Know What You Are Doing [12:49] Occasional Frank Conversations [14:09] What Are You Doing For Your Own Evolution? [15:27] Growing Out of Social Relationships [16:19] How Can We Know the Difference Between Self-love and Selfishness? [17:26] Upper-Case S Self [18:21] Lower-Case s self [19:18] Self-ish-ness and Selfness [20:34] Expanded Consciousness is the First Priority [21:43] Giving Beyond Conscious Receptivity [22:53] The Apparent Need for Reciprocity [24:28] Overcompensating [25:39] I Am the Fulfillment State Seeking the Need of the Time [26:45] How Love Evolves [27:39] Q - What’s the Vedic Worldview on Polyamory and Monogamy? [28:10] A Love Alliance [29:04] Shared Mission [30:10] Differing Standards [31:30] “Dating” [32:38] A Field Full of Potential Confusion [34:00] A Mere Relation-Ship [34:55] Be Honest About It Useful Links: [email protected] https://thomknoles.com/ https://www.instagram.com/thethomknoles/ https://www.facebook.com/thethomknoles https://www.youtube.com/c/thomknoles https://thomknoles.com/ask-thom-anything/