Jen Sookfong Lee on Women Tired Of Being Told To Fix Themselves | EP063

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Get ready to be BOTHERED. This week, Julie Kim is joined by bestselling author Jen Sookfong Lee for a funny, honest, and painfully relatable conversation about beauty standards, aging, Asian family comments, motherhood, social media perfection, and why women are expected to keep fixing themselves while also pretending everything is fine. From Botox, fillers, cottage cheese, looksmaxing, and everyone starting to look the same, to childhood memories of wanting different eyes, a different nose, a different face, and the pressure to be quiet, polite, and pretty, Julie and Jen get into the kind of stuff that stays with you for years. It is funny, personal, and very Bothered. ✨ This episode is sponsored by Nellie's Nellie's makes planet friendly and sustainable products for laundry, home cleaning, and everyday life. Sponsor link: https://nelliesclean.ca 🎙 Follow Julie Kim Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliekimcomedy Website: https://www.juliekimcomedy.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JulieKimComedy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@juliekimcomedy 📚 Guest Jen Sookfong Lee is a Vancouver based writer and one of Canada's most versatile literary voices. Her latest book, The Hunger We Passed Down, is out now and is on the Canada Reads 2026 long list. In this episode, Jen joins Julie for a conversation about beauty, race, family, aging, writing, and the things that still bother her. http://sookfong.com https://www.instagram.com/jensookfonglee/ 🎙️ In this episode • Why women are constantly told to fix themselves • Beauty standards, aging, Botox, fillers, and looksmaxing • Asian family comments about bodies, skin, noses, and faces • Julie's childhood memories around double eyelids and beauty pressure • Jen's thoughts on aging out of the male gaze • Why everyone seems to be starting to look the same • The pressure to be quiet, polite, thin, pretty, and unbothered • A shocking book event story that still bothers Jen • Motherhood, daughters, sons, confidence, and passing beauty standards down • Why being bothered can actually be useful 📍 Produced by Slate6ix Bothered is produced by Slate6ix, a video production company creating cinematic, story driven content for brands, businesses, and creators. Website: https://slate6ix.com #BotheredPodcast #JulieKim #JenSookfongLee #TheHungerWePassedDown #AsianWomen #BeautyStandards #WomenInComedy #AsianCanadian #AsianStories #Motherhood #Aging #BodyImage #SocialMediaPressure #ComedyPodcast #CanadianPodcast #CanadianComedy #WomenPodcast #Slate6ix #Slate6ixMedia #PodcastEpisode

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