建议：母亲给你的最好建议是什么

What is the best advice your mother ever gave you?Do you feel it has benefited you as an adult?I used to joke that the best advice my mother ever gave me was to never do my deep-fat frying in the nude.  But joking aside, I think the very best advice I ever got from anyone, mother included, was simply that you cannot change other people, you can only change your REACTION to other people.  This advice is put to use by me on an almost daily basis, as I encounter one situation after another wherein I would do something completely different or choose a radically different option than what I see others take.  What is the best advice you were ever given and in what ways has it added to your success in life?Abraham Schneider, My parents have been married for thirty-three years now and radiate happinessWritten Aug 3 · Upvoted by Michelle Callard-Stone, Behavioral Psychologist. PhD.My mom was giving me a haircut. This was back in high school, and I had just started dating this girl I was absolutely crazy about. Stay-up-all-night-thinking-about-her crazy. I was very open with my parents about my dating life, because they had been married twenty-five years (at that point) and radiated happiness, and what I wanted most was what they had.So I asked her a question: “Mom, do you think you enjoyed being married more when you first got married, or do you enjoy it more now?”My mom takes all questions with gravity and consideration. The hair clippers stopped for a long time. Then she said: “You know, a marriage is like a river. When it first starts out, it can be quite fierce. There are so many rocks and turbulence. Whitewater stretches where you can be holding on for dear life. And that’s exciting. When your dad and I were first married, I loved how everything was a new adventure. There was so much discovery. But as you keep going down the river, the channel cuts deeper, and the current flows more smoothly and stronger. I have to say that I love my marriage so much more now that I’m sailing on a deep current.”She could be a poet on the spot, my mom. I remember this almost word for word, and as I’ve gone through life, in tough times I recall these words and remember that life is long, and that good things are worth sticking with, because in ten and twenty and fifty years, they will be deep currents I cannot imagine at this moment.