经历：什么经历让你心肠变硬

What was one experience in your life that hardened you as a person?You can cite different instances in your life in which you changed your perspective from a idealistic one to a more practical one.Robert PuckettUpdated Apr 4Time for some serious talk.I dated the same girl from 16–19 years old. I thought I was so in love and that nothing could ever tear us apart. Coincidentally, I was also in my emo phase.When I found out she was cheating on me, I lost it. I became so depressed and angry. It eventually got to the point to where I wanted to kill myself.I went looking for a gun, but all I could find was the holster.I don't know if I actually would have pulled the trigger, had I found the gun, but that moment scared the shit out of me.It was after that night I decided I'd never allow anyone to make me feel like that ever again.This eventually morphed into a callous approach towards dating. Before then, I was the most romantic person you'd ever met. Now I don't even feel comfortable holding hands in public.You want some sweet nothings whispered in your ear? Nah, I'm just going to ruin the moment with a well-timed joke instead.I may eventually change my attitude towards dating again, but it's been 9 years since that incident and nothing yet.