Jiu-Jitsu and Intimate Partner Violence, feat. D'Juan Owens

Jesse Walker, Jeff Shaw, and Steve Kwan are joined by longtime martial artist, educator, and activist D’Juan Owens. Together, they examine how self-defense training often overlooks the realities of abuse, how martial arts culture can enable victim blaming, and what it really means to create a safe, accountable training environment.⸻👥 Featuring: • D’Juan Owens – Martial artist, educator, activist • Jesse Walker – @RoughHandsBJJ • Jeff Shaw ‪@BellinghamBJJ‬ • Steve Kwan ‪@bjjmentalmodels‬⸻🧠 Topics We Cover:• Why most self-defense seminars miss the mark• The myth of the stranger in the alley• How martial arts culture can enable abuse• The importance of teaching consent and boundaries• What it means to build a safer gym culture⸻📖 Chapters:00:00 Introduction to D’Juan Owens and His Work00:50 The Journey into Gender-Based Violence Advocacy09:22 Teaching Self-Defense and Positive Masculinity11:00 Understanding Privilege and Victim Blaming13:06 The Complexity of Privilege and Systemic Issues18:37 Understanding Privilege and Responsibility21:20 The Psychology of Self-Defense22:14 Misconceptions in Self-Defense Training23:25 The Reality of Assaults26:56 Accountability and Cultural Norms28:25 The Fallacy of Both Sides30:11 Moral Cowardice in Jiu-Jitsu34:07 The Role of Messengers in Self-Defense37:04 Setting Boundaries and Consent42:21 The Importance of Power and Responsibility48:35 Understanding Risk and Personality in Young Adults49:32 The Importance of Mixed Gender Seminars51:20 Creating a Toolkit for Situational Awareness53:13 The Role of Consent in Self-Defense Training58:27 Navigating Consent and Communication in Martial Arts01:01:58 Challenging Toxic Masculinity in Martial Arts01:09:00 Addressing Misconceptions About Women in Jiu Jitsu01:13:17 Cultural Sensitivity in Self-Defense Training