'Language and approach' Listener feedback

Lately you have been speaking in podcasts and webinars about understanding the selfing and the separate self and how all suffering is because we do not understand that there is no I controlling, choosing and doing. This is really starting to make sense for me and I understand why you want to make this point clear. You have mentioned words like: hopeless, no other way, impossible, no genuine rest, sickness etc to describe what happens when we do not see/understand this. And the thing is; at least for me, it takes time to see this. My question is partly; other people who have experienced a big shift/enlightenment have used other words and concepts to describe it. I wonder if it is helpful to use those words (to be categorical) about consequences of not seeing this? I am thinking it might be possible to have a shift through other "routes" to reality/truth and maybee therefore not helpful to use such strong words? Some people also talk about the difference in where we talk from (the understanding and the experience of it) and what we speak to (the conceptual mind or the formless space). I feel that you do that to a great extent but sometimes lately maybee pointing more to what people do not understand and the hopelessness of that?