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EPISODE · Apr 24, 2025 · 54 MIN

Learning & Leaning into Love: A powerful marriage story of When Love Stops Fixing and Starts Healing!

from The House We Build · host Becky and Don Vasquez, Build His House

In this fun, heartfelt, and honest episode, we sit down with Kess and Steve Scharff — a couple who have weathered 27 years of marriage, raised three daughters, opened their hearts as foster parents, and walked through the shadows of childhood trauma and the freedom gained in Christ after years of struggle with alcohol dependency. Their story is one of resilience, raw faith, and radical love — not the kind that tries to fix or control, but the kind that holds space, leans into grace, and chooses personal growth over blame. As Kess and Steve share, Real love isn’t about fixing someone — it’s about holding space while they grow.Together, they explore what it truly means to love someone as they are, to navigate pain without losing connection, and to let God’s love transform the way we care for those closest to us. Because as they’ve learned through experience, You can’t build a strong house if you’re only pointing at the cracks in someone else’s walls. Whether you're in the midst of relationship struggles, parenting challenges, or your own healing process, this episode is a powerful reminder: no house is too broken for God to rebuild — brick by brick, with Jesus at the center!Kess and Steve Scharff's ministry center on showing the love of Jesus to everyone they meet, teaching their family to break generational sin, and teaching other to love and serve like Christ. They believe family extends beyond blood, encompassing all who love Jesus and live according to His call. Through their work with SEEDS for Change, they emphasize holistic healing, experiential growth, and breaking free from cycles of trauma by living in alignment with God's Word and being full of gratitude and joy in the simpleness of the day. Learn more at www.kessscharff.com and get the Couples Devotional on Amazon: Sacrificial Love: The Marriage I Didn't Say I Do To, Husbands and Wives Tell All

In this fun, heartfelt, and honest episode, we sit down with Kess and Steve Scharff — a couple who have weathered 27 years of marriage, raised three daughters, opened their hearts as foster parents, and walked through the shadows of childhood trauma and the freedom gained in Christ after years of struggle with alcohol dependency. Their story is one of resilience, raw faith, and radical love — not the kind that tries to fix or control, but the kind that holds space, leans into grace, and chooses personal growth over blame. As Kess and Steve share, Real love isn’t about fixing someone — it’s about holding space while they grow.Together, they explore what it truly means to love someone as they are, to navigate pain without losing connection, and to let God’s love transform the way we care for those closest to us. Because as they’ve learned through experience, You can’t build a strong house if you’re only pointing at the cracks in someone else’s walls. Whether you're in the midst of relationship struggles, parenting challenges, or your own healing process, this episode is a powerful reminder: no house is too broken for God to rebuild — brick by brick, with Jesus at the center!Kess and Steve Scharff's ministry center on showing the love of Jesus to everyone they meet, teaching their family to break generational sin, and teaching other to love and serve like Christ. They believe family extends beyond blood, encompassing all who love Jesus and live according to His call. Through their work with SEEDS for Change, they emphasize holistic healing, experiential growth, and breaking free from cycles of trauma by living in alignment with God's Word and being full of gratitude and joy in the simpleness of the day. Learn more at www.kessscharff.com and get the Couples Devotional on Amazon: Sacrificial Love: The Marriage I Didn't Say I Do To, Husbands and Wives Tell All

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