Leo Tolstoy's Coaching Wisdom Episode 6

What are your key fundamental values?  They will guide your decision making on a daily basis It's vital you understand what affects you, your thoughts and actions and in this episode inspired by Leo Tolstoy's calendar of wisdom Rob shares more curated wisdom and reflects on how it can be used to guide life and provide contentment and fulfilment in the busy modern world. This thought-provoking episode will help anyone, anywhere reflect on the true importance and impact of what we do and how we think.   KEY TAKEAWAYS The futility of endless work Working, day after day is better if we can adopt a balanced way of life that provides us with sufficient time for recuperation and recovery so that we can deal with the challenges Attitude An approach to a life of humility, learning, an open mind and be the eternal student Every single day, we use those qualities to become more involved individuals making our lives better, and being able to be better leaders. We are all one Going to war with others is a futile and damaging thing,  creating relationships enables us to disagree and have conflict but allows us to move on in a professional and a mature way Take time to think We jump into action unconsciously every day without giving any conscious thought If we use our conscious thought we can make things better every day What is first -  the thought or the deed? If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Whether the plan is detailed or an outline, the thought will come before the deed. Remember to let go It's about the balance between doing everything you can and understanding it's time to let go of the anxiety and let it be, the rest will take care of itself Foundational values We are pushed into making daily decisions. If we have in place a set of foundational values that to us as individuals are key, those values will predict what our response will be Understand what your role is in your life What is your role, what am I here to do? It's about continuing to work every day to achieve growth. Remember to play the long game Impatience can get in the way. It's about the precise focus over the long term to know what the long-term objective is clearly so that you can overcome the challenges of everyday Embrace the challenges Do not wish for a comfortable life, it's a dream, illusion and a way to discontent, embrace the challenges so they can guide you and help you grow Remember you can only improve and work on yourself The only thing we can really control is what we do think, respond and in doing so it creates the change in others   Don't criticise It's easy to criticise and throw stones. Don't engage in futile and fruitless criticism of others to protect yourself when you need to get on with it and get better at it, not blame others Know yourself If you know yourself you set your own standards, success and benchmarks and are not influenced by others Be a good person In this world, there is tragedy, injustice, horror Be in your life by your own standards a good person The inner citadel Create an inner place within yourself. If you have a place inside your mind that is untouchable so when the turmoil of life hits you can be present and make calm decisions and have a rational thought process Act in line with your conscious If you ever have a feeling you should have been doing something then act on it Be compassionate It's a great characteristic, it helps you be a better leader; it helps you empathise and is an attractive character trait  that people like to see and be around Understand what real freedom is It's about being yourself. It's within you and is about making your own decisions about what's right for you and take responsibility for it You do not have to justify yourself to anyone else When you can stand up and be proud of yourself and like yourself you do not then have to worry about others or justify yourself to others Use your intellect Do not waste what you have, it's important to use your intellect to solve problems Remember it's an inner journey The decision internally to act on your values saying this is me It's an internal journey. And by fulfilling the inner journey the externals will fall into place   BEST MOMENTS ‘Stand up for what you believe in but maintain the relationships' It's within yourself and linked to your fundamental values ‘ ‘How much time have you spent worrying about things that are out of your control?'    VALUABLE RESOURCES Leader Manager Coach Podcast A Calendar of Wisdom by Leo Tolstoy   ABOUT THE HOST Rob Ryles is a UEFA A licensed coach with a League Managers Association qualification and a science and medicine background. He has worked in the football industry in Europe, USA and Africa; at International, Premiership, League, Non-League and grassroots levels with both World Cup and European Championship experience. Rob Ryles prides himself on having a forward-thinking and progressive approach to the game built through his own experience as well as lessons learned from a number of highly successful managers and coaches. The Leader Manager Coach Podcast is where we take a deep dive examining knowledge, philosophies, wisdom and insight to help you lead, manage and coach in football, sport and life.    CONTACT METHOD LMC Rob Ryles Website LMC YouTube  Rob Ryles LinkedIn LEARN MORE HERE Football, coach: https://www.patreon.com/robryles Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.