Let Me Know If You Need A Grownup | Ep. 08

Vivian Babin grew up as the deep-feeling kid in a family that rarely talked about loss after her mom died. At 10, she learned how to make other people comfortable with her grief. By 21, she was managing the logistics of illness, signing discharge papers between college classes, and learning medical language just to be taken seriously. In this conversation, Vivian and the hosts unpack youth grief, caregiving weirdness, and the emotional labor hidden inside let me know if you need anything. They talk about medical systems that confuse calm with capacity, how social media can offer both community support and painful comparison, and why asking for help feels so damn hard. Vivian shares how writing, therapy, chosen family, dark humor, and small rituals like Starbucks orders under her mom’s name and McDonald’s runs help turn chaos into community support, and how boundaries became the permission slips that allowed her to say no without guilt.What You’ll Learn:Youth grief does not disappear. It follows you into caregiving, relationships, and adulthood when families do not talk about loss.Caregiving creates emotional labor early. Being composed does not mean you are supported, and asking for help is a skill you have to learn on purpose.Rituals, boundaries, and dark humor matter. Small acts can turn chaos into community support and make survivorship livable.Timestamp Guide:00:00 - Welcome, Vivian Babin!2:11 - Dealing with the loss of her mother 5:46 - Youth grief and being the kid everyone watches but no one talks to8:32 - Living with grandma and growing into caregiving weirdness13:07 - The emotional labor of being taken too seriously at 2119:29 - The Millennial caregiving experience and social media27:35 - Vivian’s advice to her younger self29:15 - Rituals, comfort food, and honoring loved onesTools / Frameworks Mentioned:Asking for help is a superpowerSaying no without guilt as a permission slipChosen family and community supportWriting and therapy as emotional vulnerability toolsSelf-care rituals around a death anniversaryDark humor as a healing mechanismClosing Insight:“You’re allowed to be the grieving kid, the exhausted caregiver, and the person who says “I can’t do this” in the same breath—and that honesty is its own form of support”✅ SUBSCRIBE so you never miss an episode:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lmkifyouneedapodcastApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/let-me-know-if-you-need-a-podcast/id1844882205Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4qKPOo6cAINf4M2i7THfnv📲 FOLLOW OUR SOCIALS:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letmeknowifyouneedapodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lmkifyouneedapodcast/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lmkifyouneedapodcast