Let’s Get Physical (Again): Reigniting Intimacy in Long-Term Love with Xanet Pailet

Sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet joins Jill to share how couples can move beyond “talking about it” and actually feel their way back into connection—especially after years together. From navigating sexless seasons to scheduling “sexy dates,” Xanet reframes intimacy as an evolving art, not a rigid formula.In this conversation:Communication as the foundation of great sex (without shame or blame)Spontaneous vs. responsive desire—and why more foreplay matters as we age“Outercourse,” variety, and beating boredom in the bedroomMen’s midlife changes (yes, it’s real) and taking the pressure off performanceRepair after hurt or infidelity: safety, vulnerability, and reconnectionWhy planning intimacy can increase desire and make it more funXanet’s private couples retreats (Asheville) + annual Costa Rica group retreatA peek at her upcoming book, The Sex & Intimacy Repair Kit✨ Take Xanet’s free Intimacy Equation Quiz to discover your unique intimacy formula: HowToImproveMyLoveLife.comIf this episode helped you, share it with a friend and leave a review. Your ripple matters. 💜Want premium clients from your content?Grab a free Client Acquisition Audit and I’ll show you exactly where your message, offer, and CTA are leaking conversions—and the 3 fixes to turn your podcast/Substack into a client pipeline.👉 Book here: https://coachsalchemist.comThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp