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Stop Child Sexual Abuse (CSA)

https://www.rainn.org/articles/child-sexual-abuse

A child cannot consent to any form of sexual activity, period. When a perpetrator engages with a child this way, they are committing a crime that can have lasting effects on the victim for years. As well leave a negative effect on the abuser. 

Stopping child sexual abuse begins with helping both Assailants and possible victims understand what abuse is. and where how and why help should be sought immediately at the first signs of abuse. Obviously that easiest point would be with educating the assailant before he acts. The answer to the thoughts an abuser has is not abusing. It’s important to say. The answer is help, professional help. Please. It’s easier for you to get help, then it ever will be for that child to live with what you did. 

Forms of inappropriate behavior

Exhibitionism, or exposing oneself to a minor

Fondling

Intercourse

Masturbation in the presence of a minor or forcing the minor to masturbate

Obscene phone calls, text messages, or digital interaction

Producing, owning, or sharing pornographic images or movies of children

Sex of any kind with a minor, including vaginal, oral, or anal

Sex trafficking

Any other sexual conduct that is harmful to a child's mental, emotional, or physical welfare

Who is a CSAbuser?

The majority of perpetrators are someone the child or family knows. As many as 93 percent of victims under the age of 18 know the abuser. A perpetrator does not have to be an adult to harm a child. They can have any relationship to the child. And when considering internet access, the Perpetrator could be someone the child has met virtually. 

The Cycle 

Abusers can manipulate victims to stay quiet about the sexual abuse using a number of different tactics. 

Often an abuser will use their position of power over the victim to coerce or intimidate the child. 

They might tell the child that the activity is normal or that they enjoyed it. 

An abuser may make threats if the child refuses to participate or plans to tell another adult.

How can I protect my child from sexual abuse?

A big part of protecting your child is about creating a dialogue. What I’m going to do is share a couple of links to help offer suggestions on how to begin creating that conversation

Do you suspect a child is being harmed?

https://www.rainn.org/articles/if-you-suspect-child-being-harmed

Be involved in the child’s life.

If your child is in immediate danger, don’t hesitate to call 911. If you aren’t sure of the situation but you suspect the child is being harmed, you can take steps to gauge the situation and put an end to the abuse.

https://www.rainn.org/articles/how-can-i-protect-my-child-sexual-assault

What are the warning signs?

Physical signs:

Bleeding, bruises, or swelling in genital area

Bloody, torn, or stained underclothes

Difficulty walking or sitting

Frequent urinary or yeast infections

Pain, itching, or burning in genital area

Behavioral signs:

Changes in hygiene, such as refusing to bathe or bathing excessively

Develops phobias

Exhibits signs of depression or post-traumatic stress disorder

Expresses suicidal thoughts, especially in adolescents

Has trouble in school, such as absences or drops in grades

Inappropriate sexual knowledge or behaviors

Nightmares or bed-wetting

Overly protective and concerned for siblings, or assumes a caretaker role

Returns to regressive behaviors, such as thumb sucking

Runs away from home or school

Self-harms

Shrinks away or seems threatened by physical contact

Where can I get help?

If you want to talk to someone anonymously, 

call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 800.4.A.CHILD (422-4453), any time 24/7.

Learn more about being an adult survivor of CSA 

To speak with someone who is trained to help, 

call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673)

message to the abuser

https://time.com/3486493/preventing-child-sex-abuse-stephen-collins/

Finally if what we have addressed describes you. Thoughts you’ve had or situations you’ve created. If you have abused a child in any way including sexually, or if you feel you have tendencies toward that behavior you can be the hero of this episode and seek help. This doesn’t have to end as a tragedy. Stop now and please contact a professional 

Everyone loses when we ignore this group of non-offenders. There are young men who were horrified to realize they are attracted to younger children in adolescence, and that they were not growing out of their attraction. They describe appalling childhoods, 

living in self-imposed isolation for fear of being discovered and labeled a pedophile. 

self-loathing. 

Many consider suicide. 

As adolescents, they wanted help controlling their sexual impulses, but had nowhere to turn for help.

The best prevention programs focus on the individuals at highest risk of offending. But to get those individuals into an intervention, we must de-stigmatize the act of asking for help. The act of asking for help should be met with encouragement and effective professional interventions.

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