Let's talk about boundaries, baby!

A must-talk about topic for women: reclaiming our ability to set boundaries, with conviction!  Because ...that fire that we work so hard to shut down and minimize, always comes out in ways we haven't imagined. Women have learned well how to spew their fire instead of own it. We have become master manipulators within ourselves. We lie to ourselves to protect the illusion. Think for a moment, the last time you were overworked, overtired and overextended and the next request came in. Your whole body said NO more! but out your mouth comes "sure, no problem". What happened next? I'm willing to bet you burned yourself out. You needed rest. You needed a massage, or a vacation, or lots and lots of wine. That is one way to deal with feeling overwhelmed, with taking on too much, with giving too much. The truth is, if you don't set limits, your body will set them for you. Setting boundaries is a Crone response. Boundaries are absolutely necessary if we are to stay connected to our essence. Pretending and being pleasant ensures you stay disconnected. What's the intelligence of that? What does that ensure you don't focus on? Who does that ensure you don't become? ...how much do you grasp to hang on to the life you have, as opposed to leaning in and creating the life you're meant to live? The life you're meant to create? YOU are The One that must show up in your life. So, this is a conversation about intimacy with ourSelves. It is a conversation about how to become so fine tuned to our own internal cues that nothing else matters. It is a conversation about paying attention to the cues as they move, value and judgement free. It is a conversation about letting go of the stories, socializations and strategies that keep us confined to a boxed-in version of who a "good woman" should be. It is a conversation about noticing and claiming the penetration of patriarchal mindsets in every nook and cranny of our existence. It is about beginning to wake up, and pay attention, differently.