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点击每期节目可以看到具体文稿内容A Top Psychologist Says You Can Be Too Emotionally Intelligent. Here's Why He's WrongIt's not really intelligence unless you know how to use it.By Justin BarisoA few days ago, Thomas Chamorro-Premuzic, an accomplished psychologist and business professor, co-authored a piece in the Harvard Business Review entitled, The Downsides of Being Very Emotionally Intelligent.It begins with the story of Gemma, a hypothetical employee who most would describe as ideal. According to the authors, Gemma is:• extremely caring and sensitive• optimistic• reliable and dependable• organized• trustworthy and ethical• a beacon of calm, who never loses her cool, no matter the stress or pressure at work• Sounds like a great hire, right?But Dr. Chamorro-Premuzic concludes that Gemma's high EQ (emotional quotient) may reduce her effectiveness in certain roles, including those in senior leadership. He argues that people like Gemma are severely challenged when it comes time to make unpopular choices, bring about change, and "focus on driving results, even at the expense of sacrificing employee relations."I actually agree with much of what Dr. Chamorro-Premuzic has to say. There's only one problem.Most of the issues he describes aren't due to emotional intelligence. They come from a lack of it.Emotional vs. Emotional IntelligenceAs set out in my forthcoming book, emotional intelligence is a person's ability to identify emotions (in both themselves and others), to recognize the powerful effects of those emotions, and to use that information to inform and guide behavior. Emotional intelligence involves not only understanding how emotions work in a given situation, but the ability to manage a situation to attain a desired result.Put more simply, emotional intelligence is the ability to make emotions work for you, instead of against you.Gemma may be extremely caring and sensitive, and that's generally a good thing. But the moment that sensitivity prevents her from offering necessary feedback, it's no longer emotionally intelligent.It's just emotional.968重庆之声每周一至周五8点56分每天三分钟养成良好英语听说习惯