Liam Chooses Life

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life! My guest this week is an inspiring young man - Liam is a Brit who is now living in Germany.  He began drinking at 13 and finds himself in early recovery in his 30's. In this Episode Liam’s first experience of alcohol was at 13 when he downed half a litre of vodka and promptly passed out That experience would put many people off but in fact he was keen to do it again and carried on drinking heavily – keen to fit in with his skateboarding crowd. At 16 he left home to gain more freedom and that’s when drugs entered the mix. By the age of 24 he knew he had a problem on his hands and he did try to sober up now and again – problem was every time he did this his relapses would be serious – anything from a week to a month when he would be drinking from the moment he woke up – to the time he went to bed. Alcohol took Liam to a very dark place – he felt he had created a horrible life for himself and he just wanted to escape it. He had suicidal thoughts which were being fuelled by alcohol. In 2018 he started journaling - he would read back over the pages and see the pain in the words – he knew he had to do something or he would not survive. He chose an unusual method to get sober (one that is certainly not in our toolkit!) – he decided to move to a different country! Liam moved to Germany, where he re-invented himself as Sober Liam – he created an entirely new friend circle – anyone who didn’t accept his sobriety just didn’t fit in with his new life This approach reminds me of the “Pregnancy Principle” which Laura McKowan talks about in her book “We are the Luckiest”. She says treat your sobriety as a pregnancy – it has to be protected above anything else.  Anybody or anything that doesn’t fit in with your sobriety has to go! In spite of his resolve it was obviously not an easy path and a few months into sobriety Liam wanted to drink – "to have a bit of fun" as he puts it. He powered through this difficult patch and started writing – the writing really helped him. He was writing about sobriety and it gave him some accountability.  He was researching his articles and educating himself about the harm that alcohol does to us which also helped him to resist it. Liam is such a talented writer and I discovered him via his articles on Medium – his Soberversary is next month so I’m hoping he will write a "Goodbye to Alcohol" letter for our collection. If you haven’t discovered our "Goodbye to Alcohol" letters yet then please go to tribesober.com and hit Inspiration We talked about Liam's future – he has many happy and healthy years ahead of him which certainly wouldn’t have been the case had he still been drinking! He even gave us a few tips… Find a community of people on the same path – people who will understand you.  If you broadcast your sobriety to all your family and friends too early then you may find they are not all supportive. Have your story ready - sound confident when you say you’re not drinking – people will be less likely to persist. Accept the fact that you will never be able to drink and make it a priority for a while (back to the pregnancy principle) Don’t wait until you hit rock bottom! Spend time alone - search for activities which will bring you joy Here at Tribe Sober we start our annual 66 day challenge on 27 September - Sober Spring here in South Africa but can be a Sober Autumn as well! Membership also allows you to find your people as we welcome you into our supportive community - and this month new members will get a complimentary Sober Spring Challenge Just go to tribesober.com and hit the "join our tribe" button to read more about the benefits of membership More info Subscription membership for Tribe Sober join up HERE To access our website click HERE If you would like a free copy of our "Annual Tracker" or our e-book "66 Days to Sobriety" please email [email protected] If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email [email protected] Episode Sponsor           This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then                 sign up today           Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE           Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you            Help us to spread the word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast then please leave us a 5 star review on Apple podcasts, take a screenshot of your review and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page - we'll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram  You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE Thank you for listening!  Till Next Week Janet x