Life After Choosing Yourself: Michelle Tomes

Michelle shares her journey of leaving an unhealthy relationship, coping with emotional and financial challenges post-divorce, and embracing new adventures and personal growth. She also discusses the impact on parenting and the guilt associated with it, as well as her experience running a nonprofit and personal development. The conversation covers a journey of personal growth, self-discovery, and transformation, from rebuilding confidence after a toxic relationship to embracing healthy habits and self-reflection. It explores the impact of community, contribution, and overcoming challenges, as well as the importance of seeking help and support in times of need. The conversation also delves into the significance of nature, self-preservation, and trusting instincts, offering valuable advice for individuals in unhealthy relationships and those seeking personal growth and wellness.TakeawaysSelf-soothing with food and unhealthy behaviorsVisualization and planning for change The importance of community and contributionThe value of self-reflection and seeking helpChapters00:00 Introduction and Background01:20 Unhealthy Relationship Patterns03:10 Self-Soothing and Coping Mechanisms06:10 Breaking Point and Decision to Leave08:00 Visualization and Planning for Change10:21 Leaving the Unhealthy Relationship12:00 Emotional and Financial Challenges Post-Divorce16:01 Impact on Parenting and Coping with Guilt20:01 Embracing New Adventures and Personal Growth24:03 Running a Nonprofit and Personal Development24:59 Rebuilding Confidence and Value26:16 Community and Contribution27:34 Overcoming Challenges28:15 Closure and Gratitude29:46 Self-Discovery and Transformation30:26 Embracing Change and Transition31:19 Lessons from Entrepreneurship32:13 Self-Reflection and Lifestyle Changes33:21 Journey to Health and Wellness34:31 Gastric Bypass and Lifestyle Changes35:21 Mental Health and Self-Perception36:06 Reflection on Unhealthy Behaviors37:08 Embracing Healthy Habits38:13 Importance of Structure and Routine39:06 Reflection on Childhood Trauma40:25 Healing and Self-Discovery41:46 Nature and Self-Reflection43:22 Giving Back and Volunteering44:16 Advice for Those in Unhealthy Relationships45:44 Trusting Instincts and Self-Preservation46:43 Seeking Help and Supportwww.coffeechatetc.comGuest: Michelle Tomes