And joining me today on weekend focus life coach Kathy Joe Pollux in the studio with me. How are you today Kathy? I am just grinning from ear to ear so happy to be here with you It's been a couple of years since you've been in person right in the past we talk at least every month But this is just a special time to be actually in the studio with you. It sure is and we have another special person joining us today We do I call you both of you are my angels so Kathy Joe and her mom Teresa is here.
Teresa. How are you? I'm fine. Thank you.
I'm very happy to be here. It's your debut on radio. What do you think? It's great Well, we have a great host that is the key without Paul.
I turned around the look behind me to see where the great host is I feel very comfortable with you Paul. Well, I appreciate that a lot of my guests come in here a little bit when their first time in here They're always comfortable and I said I pride myself in that take that as a compliment And you should we get so much feedback about how you make people feel how much they enjoy it how positive and friendly and fun You are which which is really really true. Well, we try and I like to call this on to go with Kathy Joe Well, and I'm serious when's the series gonna work? I'm gonna take this nine years of We're at our roughly nine-year anniversary You can believe it and I'm gonna stroll down memory lane and try to put something together Because I've kept little notes about everything we've talked about for nine years.
Yeah, absolutely But yeah, I'm waiting for you to put together a series and I wanted us to go national at some point. You know, you realize that I think Somebody's gonna think about this. We'll be right. You know sure put it out there.
They love us, right? I think they absolutely we don't charge much if they feed us and we're a little bit our way. We're good, right? That's right.
That's right. It's all good. It is and we're kind of all over the place today We're gonna talk about some spring cleaning in our life. Take a step back and look at crap gap That's one of my favorites.
Oh people could have been here before we went on show Teresa. You can vouch for this Kathy Joe searched and searched for about 20 minutes for crap gap and you found it You know, I'm laughing for so many reasons partly because Paul had to bring up crap down I couldn't think fast enough But we put it all together and I think I'm also laughing because it is a bit of a hodgepodge And I think it's a bit of a pottery pottery. We like that right? We like that.
Yeah, it's a pottery It's brain pottery. There's a worksheet your website. Give this your website first. It's Kathy Joe Pollack.com K A T H Y J O P O L L A C K dot com Lots of great resources on there and if you click the resource and link section You'll see a lot of great handouts.
You also see contact me. Anybody would like what I call the spring clean your life Not your house your life. Mm-hmm worksheet. Just contact me and it's also on the links page But you can just send me reach out to me reach out.
We love to reach out. There's many ways to reach out You're email. I don't think I realize this. It's my coach at Kathy Joe Pollack dot com Yes, my coach all one word and why C O A C H at Kathy Joe Pollack dot com And I have to ask your mom Kathy Joe because I fill out this spring clean your life goal-setting sheets I'm a little confused on this.
I don't know whether Teresa did you find some things on here? It's a little confusing and Kathy Joe yes Yeah, see we're on the same page because I was racking my brain this morning and I have to short trick around the block But I mean I understand you know one of the things my top three goals to spring clean my life are and so it really gets you thinking and I think I think that might be part of the whole issue and I'm glad that you brought up that you felt it was confusing And I think that's interesting that could probably be a whole show in and of itself Is why was it confusing then everybody grab the form and see if it is confusing. Yes, I want people to see if they're confused Like it's a great form, but I don't know it is It is so I'm gonna kind of lay it out and I thought we could maybe walk through it for everybody listening I'd like you to start thinking spring fresh new. What have I been thinking about or wanting to do all winter?
Mm-hmm. That's nothing off the cobweb. I like that you like that thing off the car blue. Okay, so let's dust a cobwebs the dust Oh, maybe that's where the confusion is and this whole point is about three okay three goals three benefits to reach the goals Mm-hmm three action steps one for each of your goals and three things you're gonna let go of okay Okay, which is kind of cool and then tying in I guess what sort of is confusing daily habits new daily habits that you'd like to create Okay, keeping in mind those goals So I would think the very beginning would be for everyone to really think about what are three goals They have for their life this spring something fresh and new and maybe I want to add a twist okay And I was discussing this with my mom on the way down and maybe this would pull things together if this is all scattered Maybe a theme to your spring.
Okay. I never thought say I need a dis conversation about 4 a.m. This morning So I thought you were bringing well with yourself and you have some good ideas Oh, I know you well you haven't heard them yet And my theme was a healthy inside now okay my spring thing Well how I can be healthy inside now and that sort of umbrella or theme guided me then to my goal But that doesn't make it right or wrong. That's just kind of what worked for me But tell me everyone's is going to vary and there probably is no right or wrong goal because everyone is going to be different And that would be the first thing I would say if let go of what your your friend or your host or your mom is doing I go make this yours.
This is your spring cleaning here's one and this make I find this kind of odd focus on what I have and Instead of what I don't have I have found lately I tend to do that and as I'm getting in my golden years if you will or you Know getting close to 40 starting like things I think I don't want to say I'm starting to grow up because I know but there's something in my mind that's starting to shift as I'm starting to get a little older I'm starting to see and that's one of the things that really hit me focus on what I have instead of Well, you're focusing on what you have what would be a benefit to that Battle battle battle I'm making it better metal. I'm making up as we go better mental clarity I guess I don't you know it just feel better about myself because that creates undue stress anxiety Which I have a lot of anxiety and you see how that's already flowing. Yes once I got past the battle Right started just kind of relaxing and when we're hyped up and we think we have to we have to come up right things Right, it gets all stressful and scrambled I got stressed filling this out what I got put on here and everything just got jumbled And that's not good So then maybe put the form away and just close your eyes and start focusing on what you have another one I had to was let it go stop dwelling and life I tell you it was it isn't that from the movie frozen let it go the song sure let it go the kids song that everybody was familiar With but that's what I need to do is stop dwelling dwelling is a word that's coming up a lot with me I'm not really sure why yes. Yes, well, and that's not always a dwelling.
I don't think is a good thing. I'm sure they're sure okay Yeah, what do you think that's a bad thing, right? Correct? Well, I'm gonna kind of be the intermediary here.
Oh boy I think well, I think the dwelling endorsement right? It's okay to reflect on the path as long as you don't get stuck there learn from the path and that's what a dwelling company And there's a subtle difference between dwelling and reflecting and learning and moving forward And that's what I hope that we're going to get out of this is moving forward You know the things that we can benefit from you said you don't want to dwell It sounds like you want to be more in the present correct appreciating what you have either too much in the future or living too much in the past Never in the here and now being present being mindful. I love being mindful and actually that's one of mine on my list Really that number one is so cool because Paul and I find this many times We'll have a little bit of homework and we find out we picked the same thing my number one was present be present and mindful really Yeah, I like here's my sheet Her sheet looks like a road map. Did you have four things down on my I remember with healthy inside and yes So my top goal was practicing being mindful because I tend to go back to and I catch myself when I dwell and pull myself forward If I worry too much about the future, right?
You lose the moments right and you lose like just think right now here We are we have this beautiful moment with you Paul my mom This is a gift absolutely and if we're to focus behind or forward we're losing this magical moment And you know what I do with these moments of these are moments that you keep in your not only in your mind But your heart but they also get you through the future if there are any rough moments This this right here is is going to get me through that That's exactly right and there are going to be tough times right without it out and there's going to be good time But it's savoring the moment and being right here and I do have happier overall It's benefits to my goals and that goes back to what we're just talking about So if you're happier overall a happier, you know, healthier you on the inside and out and I'm curious Do you feel better when you said a goal and you reach a goal? Yes, absolutely now on here. I have my 2019 That's what I have to reach my goal myself So that's all right because I thought she's gonna let like maybe be more specific but What works for you as specific as possible? I think just the fact that somebody is looking and contemplating and actually focused on this whether if you actually have a date in mind That's a good start.
It is a very good start and actually I'm kind of glad that this whole thing scrambled you up It really did and through it's kind of like we threw all the spring flowers We're all in the air and what did we come back with it exactly just complete chaos with Paul That's for sure and now we're that that's just going to settle that that's this settling again We're talking with life coach Kathy Joe Pollack today on weekend focus and her mom Teresa's in the studio with me today So my two angels as I always call them on earth and I always try to get your mom I'm jumping all around so get some Christmas lights and big on her fences. It needs to get Well, I know you recently relocate. I'm sure you got a couple doorways and things you can put those big scene I'm bald. Yeah, I always try to get you've got some time yet.
So you gotta get that Christmas stuff together See there's a goal for you. That's right. I see it's on her paper. There's Christmas lights.
I see it I did so huge Christmas bald. So what else do you have for us? Kathy give us your website again. We always have a lot of fun for sure and I think if you're not having fun There's something maybe to look at there.
I'm gonna go out on limits. This is the best show ever isn't it around? I think so. I think so.
It's amazing the way the two of you click Absolutely is nine years ago. We met on the ground never knew each other and the rest is history That's I and you've got every piece of paper all the material there I told you please keep it because long after I'm gone from here. It'll be interesting to look back at all that Exactly, you know, not to worry. She keeps everything but I can't always find it.
Well, maybe a goal could be more organized As I do too, so I'm not just throwing you one for the bus. I do suggesting my goals to me. See that Teresa we're a good team too I'm gonna suggest maybe a quiet place where you can think about your thoughts and then share them write them down and share them a quiet Play if I can get away from myself that might happen But why are you mind and I think that comes from my phone is okay It's something that I've been really really working on to be more mindful If I can take that hour or half hour or even ten minutes what I've tried to do is just stop and focus on Exactly what my body is doing right now. Okay observing my environment exactly.
What am I seeing? I'm saying my mom I'm seeing Paul. I'm sitting in a chair I have a pen in my hand then thinking about how I'm feeling right now right now in the present in the present I'm excited. I'm happy.
This is awesome. This is just just the best absolutely I'm you know some more spring cleaning goals because I do want to jump around You know, I'm gonna get the crap gap to crap. Okay. Well, I would say anybody if they're jumping around Okay, you know for example on my goals.
It's that healthy thing. Maybe somebody has a financial thing. Okay, I'm gonna be fine I'm gonna be financially free. I'm gonna be in charge of my money.
So boom boom boom boom What are your three goals? Maybe I'll throw out some ideas. We've done many shows get a budget get up plan to pay off the credit card Possibly start a savings account. How much do you want to have by let's say August 1st or December 1st?
What do you want to say for then break it down when you can make that happen? What are the benefits you mentioned less draft? Absolutely You'll sleep better. I bet and that's a big plus right there in itself You'll be in control and when you do save study show when you're able to save money You do feel better and you sleep better financial stress is huge And when it comes out I'll go back on you mentioned something about paying you know paying off a credit card paying down if someone Has multiple credit cards and I believe I asked you this before maybe one has a higher amount one has a more a lower more obtainable amount That you can pay off do you recommend pay off the smaller one first just so that you can get that once you get the first Go out of the way.
It's kind of easier air gives you more drive to her And you bring up a really good point positive. It does make sense Roll of thumb is generally to go and put money on the highest interest card But if you have a little that you could pay off quickly It will give you that positive motivation build your confidence And then you could take that payment money and start putting it on the highest interest good point So when you pay the credit card off, I know sometimes this is bad Do you shred it and shut the account off or do you just leave it on just don't use it? Okay, yeah Shutting the closing a credit card isn't going to help you that takes a hit on your credit score correct close I'm thinking shorten your history and shorten the possible amount of debt But that's good. So think about that if that's that financial piece and you do all we've asked me I do always ask You know Paul signed his discuss crap gap So I'm just gonna throw it right out there.
It's an acronym to help you brainstorm and think of ideas So everybody wants to jot down crap gap CRAP GAP your mom and I know what this stands for we've got this down you got it down people have heard us before the show You want to make it by the sea and this is something that I learned when I did my relationship coaching Certification because people limit themselves they think too small instead of throwing all the choices out throw everything out there And number one remember to be creative, okay, okay? Absolutely the ours stands for be a risk taker. You've got to push yourself out of your comfort zone 2018 is the year for me good. It is going to be the year.
You know this and you know yes push yourself out of your company I've got to and you know what we think about complacency. That's bad. It's bad. I do that too much Well, we get in our comfort zone, but we don't push but we've got to take risk Yes, we do bad risk, but reasonable risk if you know what I'm some of those risks say it's it feels good to be alive So just being stale mundane getting in staying in the bubble get out of your push yourself from the nest right?
Yes So what else we talk about Start yourself to go after your goals. Hey, this is your life. You can make it happen I have a client say to me last night. I'm in control.
I can choose to be happy or not I can be I can choose to stay in a job that I hate or go out and find another job only I can do that So you're gonna have to be assertive sure okay sure I started for sure proactive proactive Yeah, I know that's an overused word, but we've got to be looking ahead But not so far we lose the moment either But you know with those into risk taking as well goal oriented we're talking about spring cleaning setting goals So focus on those goals as you said and I said what we're doing what we want to accomplish So we want to accomplish that your goals if you don't have any goals, we all know where we end up, right? Where do we end up nowhere? That's true. If you don't know where you're going you'll end up someplace else I like that.
That's a favorite thing If you don't know where you're going you'll end up someplace else and what I don't like it If I don't set goals and plans for myself somebody else is probably gonna do it for me And I don't know that I would like that exactly would you I wouldn't like it No, no, they have to be your own correct and abundance always think abundance when you make choices based on scarcity You don't make good choices. They thought it fear right and then always be positive That's a positive attitude is everything. That's the P that rounds out gap right crap gap Thank you, Paul crap gap creative risk taker a third of proactive go or in a Bondant and positive that rounds it out Teresa. We had that we nailed that See we're right on target with crap gap Right talk about picking goal that that make it easier to help you select three goals Okay, but what do you have for gold?
We just recently moved from a house to an apartment to be near our daughters and my goals I need to get out of the apartment learn my way around learn my way to the stores and things I need to make new friends. I need to find out what's going on in the community And I'm only going to do that if I get up and make myself do it. That's a good I like that do it for myself. I'm driving ambition.
Yeah, I like that. Yeah, I like that I don't want to sit in the apartment and do nothing sure and move it's hard Oh, well people will love Teresa because she's a go get her fun person to be around you will have no trouble making friends That's right. That's exactly right. But the key is you have to get out and do that and I can do that That's exactly right.
That's people in the building are very nice. They're very friendly There's a party Saturday. We're going to go. Yeah, yeah, good way to meet And greet right.
Yeah, you get involved in some other events and things exactly some activities in the community sure You know when fear crops up the lot, you know, I'm afraid I might not like it. I'm afraid that you've got to just get rid of my mind Yeah, I'm gonna try to tell your mind. I can see your mind. That's very scary And that's a short trip around the block But a little scary is okay because it's not a little scary But when you let the fear dictate your life and keep your head back and you're never get on an airplane because I'm afraid to fly You used to be a flight of 10 years.
Yes, you did. I didn't realize that one time so I said I'm scared death The fly is a wait a minute. It's not it's really not bad. No, did you ever fly?
No, I've never stepped on an airplane Oh, really? No, so maybe that's one of my goals within the next year. Okay, how about we revisit this again? Yes, that would be a good one.
You could put it on there now. Okay, you're three so you had to focus on what you have and letting things go Right, and maybe third would be taking out plane ride plane at six great camp. I was in a hot air balloon. Is that how cool that was fun?
I don't I don't but I remember and I love it. Yeah, so plane ride There we go. So what else we're again, we're talking with life coach Kathy Joe Pollack today on weekend focus If anyone wants to reach out to you Kathy Joe, how can they do that? Sure?
They can go to my website Kathy Joe Pollack comm click contact me. There's a phone number email or even just a quick little sheet We were talking about spring clean your life with goal setting three things that you would like to set your mind to do and really Looking at the benefits what achieving these goals will do for you And I think your mom Teresa hit on it a little bit ago letting other people control allowing people to make us feel and we're really In control of our own emotions and our thoughts and we realize because we'll say Kathy Joe made me upset It's like no Kathy Joe didn't make it up said I allowed her to make no set I think in life you know we allow too much from other people to control our lives and we make excuses for ourselves We do we blame other people we say I did this because of blah blah blah but truthfully we can't control anybody but ourselves and we can control Our reaction. I love that. That's true very true not easy and I get a lot of pushback from that But we truly truly can and you used to be a relationship coach.
Yeah life though I do you know you've got to have patients of a saint to do that. Yeah, well It's helping people realize that the power really is within them and once they see that they can do things they can make good choices They have that ability it's a magical word It just help people mesh together better is there ever been a case and I have to ask that when you've realized it's like these two aren't meant to be I'm glad you mentioned that I don't do couples coaching Okay singles coaching to help singles be comfortable with themselves, but you have to really know what you want Okay, sort of goal setting you know, what do I want in the spring? What do I want in a mate? This is a terrible I guess way to look at it, but you're helping them be a better product on a store shelf Yeah, very sure Know their product exactly if they don't know their own product they can't sell it or say no what they're selling Of course that could get you in trouble There you are and what you want and what's important to you Many people will find a mate and think I'll either then mold that mate to me or I'll move myself to them and that's That's never gonna work.
That's like two trains heading in the same direction on the same track. It's never gonna work And some people might have an under goal, you know, if to meet someone That's a wonderful goal The benefits of meeting someone and having someone to share their life with Exactly exactly, but that knows we talk about goals This has got got my mind thinking we've got a few minutes left Kathy Joseph I'll ask you and anything else as we start to wind down here as I always say We're almost at 25 minutes already Go so fast together it makes me only wish that I had more so that's why it's important again to go back to what we said in the beginning Being mindful and being in the present and enjoying the moment and setting goals I love this quote from Walt Disney I don't know if I've said it much in the past but it was one that came to mind and it's and Walt Disney said if you can dream it You can do it Walt Disney says always remember this whole thing started By a mouse was started by a mouse Wow Think about that that little mouse Walt Disney So if you can dream it you can do it set your goals set them high make them realistic and think about the benefits cut this paper out or cut your goals Post them keep things visible remember the power is within you only you can do it can always get support though It's hard to believe Kathy Joe nine years. Oh my goodness Show and I can honestly say no matter no matter where life takes me down the road in the future I have my two angels on earth you and your monotreeces sitting across from me and And like I said the friendships it's been built here no matter where I go and life that will never change so Right we'll take that with us. We go and we feel the same about you Paul It has been just these nine years have been I can't even express how wonderful they've been absolutely It's every step that we met through a mutual person that knew and said hey I've got this perfect person to be and you passed your number along and that was nine plus years ago And I'll think about this if you would have been afraid to reach out to me or had I've been afraid not to try this with you We would have never had all of this no So don't sure change yourself on taking risks taking chances and all of the positive feedback throughout the years that I've received about our segments And everyone I've had people say is Kathy Joe really is nice as she I said absolutely she is actually I try to come across as with me and with you And even with your mom what you hear on the air is what you hear what we are off the air It's not It's not like I just down on everybody else's level You know we're not above real real talk real people we may discuss an idea but nothing we have nothing really scripted It's really to go with it But you brought up something that I want to end on how important strong support circle is sure having good people around you that support your goals and your efforts And that is so so helpful in life.
Well, Kathy Joe Theresa I appreciate both of you stopping by today to enjoy it Theresa very much. Thank you. Thank you on coming on the air Did you know you want to sit? I always say anybody that tries to sit off the side of the studio No, no, no, that's you have more of a target on you when you do that, but she's right up to the counter Yes, she did.
So I appreciate that sure did. Thank you. Well, thank you and Kathy Joe We'll be talking to you again next month. So brainstorm and I you know a topic idea for us and we'll make it happen We sure will and thank you again so much Paul.
Thank you and we'll talk to you next month