List of People I've Hurt

Step eight of AA is all about making a list of people I've hurt and finding ways to make amends with them. The difficulty is that making amends with people looks different for every person I hurt. This is a process that can take months or years and may not give you the results you want, but it's part of the process.    Key Takeaways:    [2:31] Step eight of AA  [4:46] Making amends with people is different than just apologizing [7:06] Some of the people I've made amends to  [8:10] You can't skip over the basics when you're doing something complex [10:57] What if a bond is unrepairable or an amend impossible to make?  [13:01] AA works because people show up years and years after becoming sober [15:13] I think Kenny is too forgiving  [16:13] What non violent communication is all about  [19:55] The addict has to work on themselves [22:13] Liberal vs conservative thinking, horizontal and vertical thinking [25:52] You can't just make an apology to make yourself feel better  [30:07] How I make amends  [32:22] I've been hurt and people haven't apologized  [33:24] Listening to both sides of peoples experiences  [34:26] I'm great at self blame  [35:50] I hold onto anger from being lied to  [36:28] It's not easier for me to forgive anybody  [37:27] This step can take months to do  [39:37] Traditions seven and eight  Resources:   Breathing Underwater     Connect with Barb:   Website   Facebook    Instagram   Be a guest on the podcast    YouTube   The Molly B Foundation