Listener question: curious about guilt

I'm curious about guilt. It's a long term pattern I have around my mum. I'm not sure if the feeling of guilt is old laid down energies, from a difficult childhood with her, working the way out of the system.  O if it's a kick up the ass, as in that moment, I'm seeing my mum as someone seperate out there and the story is she shouldn't be like this/I'm not being a 'good' daughter. Or perhaps neither or both.In the past I'd be avoiding or scrambling to make her okay but for now I'm showing up, being curious and being the space for the emotions.  I'd love to hear thoughts about this, thanks