Listening as Foreplay: The Sexiest Skill No One Taught Us in Midlife with Carla Wainwright

In this episode of Transforming 45, holistic wellness and sexual awakening facilitator Carla Wainwright shares how women over 40 can heal trauma, deepen intimacy, and reclaim pleasure by reconnecting with the wisdom of the body. We explore perimenopause, nervous system regulation, conscious communication, and why listening, really listening, is a revolutionary act in relationships. Carla blends science and sacred practice to help women move from survival mode into embodied presence, emotional safety, and fulfilling sexuality in midlife. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating menopause, relationship shifts, or a desire for deeper connection and self-trust. Key Topics We Cover: • Trauma and the body in perimenopause • Why midlife can reawaken unhealed experiences • How to communicate without defensiveness • The role of pleasure and sexuality after 40 • Creating safety for vulnerability in relationships • Listening as a healing practice • The body’s innate intelligence • Walking and breath as nervous-system regulation tools • Expanding into a more conscious, compassionate love Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Holistic Wellness and Sexual Awakening 01:15 Carla's Journey: From Trauma to Transformation 08:33 Reconnecting with Nature and Childlike Wonder 13:42 Navigating Trauma and Healing in Perimenopause 19:41 The Impact of Physical Changes on Relationships 27:42 Creating Safe Spaces for Communication in Relationships 38:24 Resources for Vibrancy and Connection Stay Connected with Lisa Boate & Transforming 45 Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Got questions or feedback? Drop us a message at [email protected] Download my Free Guide - How To Reignite Your Purpose Without Feeling Overwhelmed or Guilty! Connect with Carla: 🌿 Free Gift: https://vibrancyguide.com/ 🌐 Website: https://carlawainwright.com/📸 Instagram: @carlawainwright Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices