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EPISODE · Nov 15, 2023 · 48 MIN

LIVE Q&A SERIES // How can we teach kids to make good choices? It's actually our super power tool...

from Upbringing · host Hannah + Kelty

When mistakes are judged, shamed and connected to child’s worth + belonging (conditional teaching):✔️Kids learn to feel shame when they naturally struggle✔️Kids learn that conflict is binary: good/bad, right/wrong✔️Kids hold in their feelings + needs out of fear of shame✔️Kids are more likely to lie, blame, + defend to feel safeWhen mistakes neutrally explored and NOT connected to child’s worth + belonging (unconditional teaching):✨Kids learn to feel safe when they struggle and grow✨Kids learn that conflict can be a safe place to learn✨Kids learn their + others’ needs + feelings matter✨Kids are more likely to communicate, empathize + innovateGah! We’re all trying to give ourselves grace, patience and love for all the “messing up” we’re doing as adults + parents. ✨Can we try to extend those same things to our kids as they learn and grow, too?Rather than instinctually repeating the inherited phrasing that was passed down to us from generations before, we give you permission to lean into your kids’ learning moments with the very skills you hope to teach them: curiosity, empathy, humor + innovation — a concerted effort to focus on the NEEDS vs the BEHAVIORS.Need a little support? Visit our shop + choose the support that works right now for your family!✨ Downloadable pdf guides for calm bodies, big feelings + sibling conflict✨ 2-on-1 coaching sessions to build a connective plan✨ Grab a spot in our membership community, The Upbringing Collective!The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community membership– is open for enrollment on a sliding scale! You’ll receive:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricingReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: [email protected] Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

When mistakes are judged, shamed and connected to child’s worth + belonging (conditional teaching):✔️Kids learn to feel shame when they naturally struggle✔️Kids learn that conflict is binary: good/bad, right/wrong✔️Kids hold in their feelings + needs out of fear of shame✔️Kids are more likely to lie, blame, + defend to feel safeWhen mistakes neutrally explored and NOT connected to child’s worth + belonging (unconditional teaching):✨Kids learn to feel safe when they struggle and grow✨Kids learn that conflict can be a safe place to learn✨Kids learn their + others’ needs + feelings matter✨Kids are more likely to communicate, empathize + innovateGah! We’re all trying to give ourselves grace, patience and love for all the “messing up” we’re doing as adults + parents. ✨Can we try to extend those same things to our kids as they learn and grow, too?Rather than instinctually repeating the inherited phrasing that was passed down to us from generations before, we give you permission to lean into your kids’ learning moments with the very skills you hope to teach them: curiosity, empathy, humor + innovation — a concerted effort to focus on the NEEDS vs the BEHAVIORS.Need a little support? Visit our shop + choose the support that works right now for your family!✨ Downloadable pdf guides for calm bodies, big feelings + sibling conflict✨ 2-on-1 coaching sessions to build a connective plan✨ Grab a spot in our membership community, The Upbringing Collective!The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community membership– is open for enrollment on a sliding scale! You’ll receive:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricingReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: [email protected] Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

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When mistakes are judged, shamed and connected to child’s worth + belonging (conditional teaching):✔️Kids learn to feel shame when they naturally struggle✔️Kids learn that conflict is binary: good/bad, right/wrong✔️Kids hold in their feelings +...

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