Losing two babies shortly after birth with Kelly

Kelly is a mum of four.  She has two living children – Brooklyn and Jake, and two children who she had to say goodbye to within hours of them being born – Nina and Molly.Kelly learned in her early life that she was a carrier of a Chromosomal issue running in the family, passed down from her dad.  She is a carrier but when she has children they could either be totally fine, a carrier like her, or incompatible with life, ending in miscarriage, stillbirth or death shortly after birth.  A 50 % chance of her baby not surviving.Her first three attempts to have a baby ended in miscarriage but  after that she went on to have two healthy children.  They are both carriers too but healthy in themselves.After this, Kelly just didn’t feel that he family was finished and she desired to have another baby.  So she and her husband tried again.They became pregnant but the CVS results at 14 weeks showed that this baby was affected and was incompatible with life.  They had to make decisions around terminating the baby or carrying to term.They chose to carry their baby to term and with the help of a supportive team she was born at 36 weeks, alive and with her eyes open.  She lived for 1 hour and 46 minutes.  Her name is Nina.After this experience of losing Nina the feelings of wanting to try for another child just wouldn’t go away.  Her husband was not on board with her but in the end they did try again and Kelly became pregnant again and the CVS results showed that this baby also was not compatible with life.They gave this baby what they gave Nina.  Kelly carried her to term in the hopes of also meeting her alive.  She was born alive at 36 weeks and lived for 1 hour and 30 minutes.  Her name is Molly.Kelly shares with us the isolation, the grief and the heartache she and her family have been through but also how they are doing well now and she finally feels herself again.Connect with Kelly: Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/thegriefdebrief/Blog - https://eitsirhc.wixsite.com/bestillandknowkcConnect with Janine:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/waitingforyou.podcast/Janine's photography instagram - https://www.instagram.com/janinefoxphotography/Share your story on the podcast - https://www.janinefoxphotography.co.nz/podcastMusic written and recorded by Alan Meharry and Stu Fox