Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated

Ever wonder why some couples grow closer over time while others drift apart? It’s not fate—it’s patterns. The small, often invisible ways we communicate, react, and repair can determine whether love deepens or disintegrates. And once you can see those patterns, you can change them. This week, I sat down with Zoey Charif, author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, to unpack the science (and soul) of lasting love. Zoey spent two decades decoding patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about love. She reveals what secretly destroys connection—and the small but powerful shifts that can bring it back to life. Here’s what she covered in our interview: -What inspired Zoey to explore the idea that love can actually be calculated? -What are the most important findings that determine whether love thrives or fades? -Zoey says that self-worth is the foundation for healthy love. What are the signs someone’s operating from low self-worth—and how can they shift that from the inside out? -Zoey says that admiration is crucial in long-term relationships, and settling leads to resentment. Why is admiration so essential—and how can people hold out for alignment without closing their hearts? -For people who keep choosing the same kind of partner and getting hurt, what do her findings reveal about how to break that pattern? -How can someone use her insights to make their current relationship stronger, not just to find “the right person”? You can learn more about Zoey’s book, Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, here: https://amzn.to/472uLx5 And Zoey’s website is here: https://www.lovecaninfactbecalculated.com/ More about Zoey Charif: Zoey Charif isn’t just redefining how we think about love — she’s giving us a blueprint. As the author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, Zoey spent two decades decoding patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about love. Born in Afghanistan, raised in Vancouver, and now based in Orange County, California, Zoey brings a rare blend of emotional depth, analytical precision, and lived experience to her work. Her framework is coachable, actionable, and designed to help people transform their relationships. Her work is a wake-up call: love isn’t magic. It’s math, psychology, and emotional mastery. Outside of the relationship space, Zoey is a powerhouse entrepreneur helping startups and established businesses secure funding and scale with precision.Whether she’s helping people find aligned love or success, Zoey’s mission is the same: to turn hope into mastery and potential into reality.