Love Is The Feeling

In this episode, we reflect on a widespread—but often unspoken—belief that quietly undermines many relationships: the idea that “If you loved me, you’d do this for me.” Whether it’s taking out the bins, dressing a certain way, or showing up to an event, partners frequently use behaviour as a measure of love. But does action really reflect feeling? We explore why tying love to behaviour inevitably leads to pressure, resentment, and insecurity—and why it can never create the emotional reassurance people are truly seeking. Shaul explains how love is fundamentally a feeling, not an action, and why that feeling can never be found in someone else’s compliance. Chana discusses how real transformation happens when individuals reconnect with their own loving feeling, rather than demanding love from their spouse. Respect, expectations, and emotional needs all look different from this quieter, gentler place. A thoughtful conversation about why love begins in the heart, not in behaviour—and how that single insight can turn a relationship around.