Love isn’t a feeling.

Please note: this episode includes two minor swears, and the following reference: "I’m not talking about overlooking legitimate issues, like abuse or adultery or just general assholery." Although not marked explicit, this is one to screen before listening in front of the littlest ears. Valentine’s Day gets us thinking about romance, but what does lasting love actually look like? After twenty years together, I’ve come to believe it has a lot less to do with butterflies and a lot more to do with how we show up for each other, give each other grace, and choose to see the good—even when life gets messy. Click here if you’d prefer to read this content. If you'd like to receive these essays in both written and audio form, subscribe to Eliciting Esperance here. And if this episode resonated with you, please consider sharing it with a friend or rating the podcast. Both help more people find this work, and I'm grateful. Esperance (es-per-uhns): the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best. Thank you to Joris Vermeer for the use of their human-created music for this podcast. Get full access to Eliciting Esperance at elicitingesperance.substack.com/subscribe