Love, Sex & Autism with Guest Candice Christiansen

Love, Sex & Autism: Building Intimacy Through Safety, Not PressureWhat does a healthy sexual relationship look like in a neurodiverse marriage?In this episode, Dr. Stephanie Holmes and Barbara Grant welcome back Candice Christiansen, LCMHC, Autism-ADHD specialist and author of Love, Sex & Autism. Candice previously joined us to discuss the significant overlap between autism, ADHD, and addiction. That previous show is here: This time, the conversation turns to one of the most requested—and often misunderstood—topics in neurodiverse relationships: sex and intimacy.The past show with Candice: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/porn-sex-addiction-sexuality-autism-with-candice-christiansen--67047295Together they explore:Why autism and ADHD can influence sexual desire in very different waysHypersexuality, compulsive sexual behaviors, and sexual addictionLow libido and desire discrepancies between partnersSensory sensitivities and how they affect intimacyThe role of trauma, shame, and emotional safetyHow differences in communication can create misunderstanding around sexWhy pressure, coercion, obligation, and manipulation damage intimacyHow couples can accommodate differing libidos with compassion and mutual respectThe central message of this conversation is that healthy intimacy is not measured by frequency or performance. Lasting sexual connection grows from mutual safety, trust, compassion, emotional connection, and genuine concern for one another's well-being. Especially in neurodiverse marriages, where sensory differences, communication challenges, and differing sexual needs may exist, intimacy flourishes when both partners feel emotionally and physically safe, free from coercion, compulsions, addiction, guilt, or pressure.Whether you are navigating high libido, low libido, sensory differences, or simply seeking a healthier understanding of intimacy, this conversation offers practical insights and hope for building a relationship where both partners can experience mutual pleasure, respect, and connection.About Our GuestCandice Christiansen, LCMHC is an Autistic-ADHD autism expert who provides neuro-affirming consultation and training to medical and mental health providers, universities, treatment centers, and organizations. She is passionate about ensuring that autistic individuals receive ethical, neuro-inclusive medical and mental health support in treatment settings addressing mental health, substance use, sex, and intimacy. She is the author of Love, Sex & Autism. Barbara Grant mentioned being able to assess for autism- make an Appointment!https://bg-hc.com/ About the MIGDAS-2 and why Adults Should be Assessed with MIGDAS-2https://www.spreaker.com/episode/migdas-2-and-adult-asd-evaluations-with-dr-donna-berghauser--62693428https://www.spreaker.com/episode/diagnosing-autism-early-intervention-the-ados-cars-migdas-2--71839330