Make it a Fair Fight Using the Gottman Method | With Derek Wittman, LMHC, LPC

This episode digs deep into the journey of strengthening relationships through the Gottman method, sharing personal anecdotes and professional insights. Key takeaways from the episode: What is the Gottman method and how does it apply to couples therapy? What are 'bids' in the context of relationship dynamics, and why are they important? The impact of individual therapy on couples' dynamic How does the intersection of mental health with kink, BDSM, ethical non-monogamy, and LGBTQ issues impact therapy and relational understanding? How can communication and understanding intentions in relationships lead to better connection and trust? What strategies can couples adopt from the Gottman method to prevent relationship issues and strengthen their bond? A former Industrial and Systems Engineer, Derek Wittman is an LMHC in NY and LPC in PA with over 10 years in clinical practice. From the treatment of Substance Use Disorders to couples therapy with the Gottman Method, he had seen families reconnect in healing from the grip of trauma into restored relationships. With precious operations management experience, Wittman has recently taken the leap from his Clinical Manager position with a top 10 national healthcare company to start his own solo private practice. Noteworthy quotes from this episode: [27:17] "and I recognize that if she is hurt about something I did or said, that's absolutely valid, it doesn't mean that she hates me, it means that she trusts me enough to say it. And I'm so glad that I can offer her that level of safety, that she can rest on me and rest in a relationship and I don't get offended by her feelings. I want her to feel safe with me. I see in various communities that I'm a part of where ‘Am I overreacting?’ is a very common question. It's like, well, your feelings are not a reaction period. They're all internal. What are you doing with those feelings? You're throwing a temper tantrum? Are you crying? Are you calmly sharing how you feel about something? I hope I can always be calmly sharing or receiving something.” Connect with Derek Www.sageintime.com https://www.facebook.com/profile.php/?id=100092603180057 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sage-in-time-podcast/id1721609280 Connect with Paige Bond Instagram: @paigebondcoaching Facebook: @paigebondcoaching TikTok: @paigebondcoaching Website: https://paigebond.com Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love. Free Jealousy Workbook: ⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠ Free People Pleasing Workbook: ⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed. Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling. Intro music by Coma-Media on ⁠⁠pixabay.com⁠