Making Peace with Living Child Free

Drop us some Fan Mail. Thanks!How do you know when enough is enough? What do you do when infertility treatment and adoption don't end up with you having a child. Join us to talk with Rebecca and Sallyann Majoya, co-authors of the memoir Uncertain Fruit, and Carole LieberWilkins, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist providing individual and couples counseling, as well as psychoeducational consultations, for those moving into alternative paths to parenthood and living child-free.In this episode, we cover:Deciding to live child-free is becoming increasingly common in the US. Research has found that 30 percent of women of childbearing age identifying wanting to live child-free. However, that is not reflective of the people we are speaking to who have likely tried infertility treatment or adoption and it hasn’t worked for them.What is the right name: childfree or childless? Are you childfree by choice or childfree not by choice?Age is less of a biological cut off point than in the past and that complicates the decision of whether to stop trying to have a child.How do people know when it is time to stop trying? What are the signs that it is time to stop. How do you know when enough is enough?Is making the decision to live childfree ‘giving up’?Are there predictable steps for reaching the decision of when it is time to stop fertility treatment or adoption? Determining when you should stop.How to decide to stop?‘Trying on’ the futureSeeking new goal/visionTherapyHow can “giving up the dream” of children impact a couple’s relationship?How to handle when both partners are not on the same page.Once you’ve made the decision, should you take steps to not get pregnant? The “not-try-but-not-prevent” approach.For many, the decision to live child free not by choice causes grief, but this loss is invisible. It’s hard for others to see or understand, so we mourn without the support of our community.What can people do to help themselves resolve the grief of not having kids?Writing a letter to the child you will never know.Giving this dream child a “funeral.” Doing something with the letter that is akin to a funeral. Concrete reminders that the person is gone. Create a ritual to say goodbye.Writing a memoir. Create a new life goal. A new vision for your future.This podcast is produced  by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamilySupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review.  This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family building