EPISODE · Oct 31, 2025 · 47 MIN
Male Attachment Wounds: Touch, Isolation, and the Father You Never Had - Duey Freeman
from The Mature Male · host Wes Lambert
Duey Freeman is a psychotherapist with over 80,000 client hours, former professor at Naropa University for 31 years, founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies, and specialist in attachment theory and equine-assisted therapy.Most men struggle with deep feelings of being misunderstood, isolated, and inadequate - but they don't know why. Duey reveals how boys receive half the physical touch that girls do by age two, how this creates a fundamental lack of self-confidence, and why the mental health system's focus on protocols and diagnosis completely misses what actually heals: deep relational connection. This conversation explores the attachment wounds most men carry, the grief work required to heal the gap between the father you wanted and the father you got, and why horses' natural herd behavior reveals everything wrong with how modern men handle crisis.Expect to learn why boys develop slower than girls and how this creates vulnerability, the two questions every human asks from birth to death, what it means to feel "gotten" versus just heard or seen, why horses come together in crisis while men isolate, how touch deprivation shapes masculine self-worth, the difference between archetypal parents and real parents, why integrated attachment matters more than secure attachment, how prey animals can teach predators about relationship, the five core needs in any intimate bond, why patriarchy and privilege actually hurt men, and much more...Get in touch in the comments below or head to...Website: www.weslambert.meEmail: [email protected]Substack: https://substack.com/@weslambertSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Yv1ciX90C3zdPxD67kjyY?si=7591bc0f32da4f23Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mature-male/id1805978833
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Duey Freeman is a psychotherapist with over 80,000 client hours, former professor at Naropa University for 31 years, founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies, and specialist in attachment theory and equine-assisted therapy.Most men struggle with deep feelings of being misunderstood, isolated, and inadequate - but they don't know why. Duey reveals how boys receive half the physical touch that girls do by age two, how this creates a fundamental lack of self-confidence, and why the mental health system's focus on protocols and diagnosis completely misses what actually heals: deep relational connection. This conversation explores the attachment wounds most men carry, the grief work required to heal the gap between the father you wanted and the father you got, and why horses' natural herd behavior reveals everything wrong with how modern men handle crisis.Expect to learn why boys develop slower than girls and how this creates vulnerability, the two questions every human asks from birth to death, what it means to feel "gotten" versus just heard or seen, why horses come together in crisis while men isolate, how touch deprivation shapes masculine self-worth, the difference between archetypal parents and real parents, why integrated attachment matters more than secure attachment, how prey animals can teach predators about relationship, the five core needs in any intimate bond, why patriarchy and privilege actually hurt men, and much more...Get in touch in the comments below or head to...Website: www.weslambert.meEmail: [email protected]Substack: https://substack.com/@weslambertSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5Yv1ciX90C3zdPxD67kjyY?si=7591bc0f32da4f23Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mature-male/id1805978833
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