Managing Emotions and Behavior with Ling Lam

Do you ever wonder why we do the things that we do? Why do we behave in certain ways or think certain things? What is it that drives our impulses and decisions on a daily basis and how does the way that we act affect those around us? Ling Lam, Ph.D., is a lecturer in Counseling and Psychology at Santa Clara University and he joins me on today’s episode to discuss what drives human behavior. Ling breaks down the ways in which we can control or change unhealthy behavior, what trauma is and the ways in which it can manifest, and what emotional intelligence looks like. Tune in to Episode 157 of REJUVENAGING® and go from judgment to curiosity with Ling Lam. Some Questions I Ask: How did you happen to get on my side of the continuum? The positive, goal-oriented kind of direction? (5:34) You do have kind of an overriding theory, from which a number of the things we'll talk about stem, and that's that all behavior is purposeful. On the surface, that makes a lot of sense. But what does that mean? (6:53) What kinds of traumas are there? And what makes one different from the other? (13:21) What is emotional intelligence and why is it important? (23:51) In This Episode, You Will Learn: About Ling’s background and how he ended up where he is now (3:40) How to take steps in making changes to our behaviors (9:27) How culture plays a role in behavior (11:20) Why complex trauma is harder to treat than other traumas (17:39) The ways in which we can work on becoming more emotionally intelligent (26:39) Connect with Ling Lam Ling Lam’s website Useful REJUVENAGING® Resources Website: https://www.thementalhealthgym.com/ Book: Dr. Ron Kaiser -Rejuvenaging: The Art and Science of Growing Older with Enthusiasm Email: [email protected] TEDx Talk: Aging Enthusiastically to Make the World a Better Place