Marriage Boredom? Get On the Couch with Dr. Cheryl and Reignite Passion

Do you and your partner have a loving, sweet relationship? One where you make their favorite white-bread-and-meatloaf sandwiches and they cuddle and caress you when you’re not feeling your best? The bills are paid, the kids are happy, the dogs are fed… but what about after the lights go out? Is there passion, lust, and desire? Or are you more of the spooning-in-front-of-the-tv type? Harsh truth time: You can be in an incredibly caring, nurturing, and admiring relationship but still be missing that key sexual component. And yeah—that’s kind of a big deal.  For the month of September, all of my episodes are going to focus on the Passion Triangle. Each week, I’m going to feature a real couple from my 10-week online immersion couples program. My Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program explores what to do if you’ve found yourself in a Marriage Incorporated type of relationship—one where your sweetheart has become less of a lover and more of a business partner—and how to move forward when you realize it’s way past time to pull out of that comfortable, responsible rut and learn how to fall in love again, over and over, with the one you're already with. In this episode, I talk about how newer research indicates that when we're falling in love, our brain chemistry actually mimics the biochemistry of obsessive-compulsive disorder—and what that means about the lusty infatuation we find ourselves in at the beginning of a new romance. I also teach you how my Passion Triangle applies to real-life couples with the same intimacy issues as you and me. (Yes, even Dr. Cheryl, sex therapist, has these problems when I’m not being intentional!) Here’s the thing: It's not about waiting around for a whirlwind romance and love that sweeps you off your feet. It's definitely not about fixing your partner so that they fit your specifications... A fantastic, rare, passionate relationship is actually about learning to BECOME an amazing partner yourself. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The doors open on my 10-week Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime program later this month. I’ve had 212 couples complete the program in the last 18 months, check out the link at the bottom of the page to be next! (04:07) The perils of what I call Marriage Inc. and why you can’t run your relationship like you’d run a corporation. (07:58) Even my sexy, 6’1” hunk of a husband and I fall into Marriage Inc. (and forget to have sex!) if we’re not intentional about our love life. (10:58) Ed and Jeanine had an incredibly sweet, loving, cuddly, drop-your-favorite-sandwich-off-at-work, hot-water-bottle-for-your-cramps relationship — but they were still stuck in a sexless marriage.  (13:16) With the right tools and techniques, I got Ed and Jeanine to move on from Marriage Inc. to Passion Inc. (18:03) The key to a great date night: leave talk of the daily stressors and mundane problems at home. (24:02) Your weekly LoveByte. (27:30)   Q&A: Since we’ve had kids, our sex life has totally dried up. Help! Many couples experience a change in their sex lives after children come into the picture. One way to change things up and get to know each other all over again is to schedule regular date nights and try new things together. Try hitting up a cool new restaurant or exploring a new-to-you hiking trail—and make a promise not to talk about the kids, the vet bills, or the work that needs to be done on the car.  How can I spice up my sex life with my partner? In order to have more passionate sex more frequently, it’s important to be intentional about your sexual intimacy. Try booking a hotel room away from the kids, pets, and daily stressors—a strange location away from it all may be just the thing you need to rediscover your passion for one another.  My partner and I never have sex… what’s wrong with us? Experiencing intense lust and passion at the beginning of a new relationship is incredibly normal. More than a third of couples are sexless….so you are not alone. Recent research even suggests that the brain’s chemistry mimics that of obsessive-compulsive disorder at the beginning of a new romance. To avoid the drop-off that many couples experience, try focusing your energy on intentional, scheduled intimacy.  Resources mentioned: Buddha's Bedroom Dr. Cheryl's Recipe for a Perfect Valentine's Day Sign up here for the waitlist to the Become Passion—Create Love That Lasts a Lifetime online immersion couples program with Dr. Cheryl. Be the first to know when the doors open and get some special bonuses.  Let’s Connect! About Me Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.