Marriage | Learning to Be Good and Mad: Marriage Rescue - Part 3

Send us Fan MailLEARNING TO BE GOOD AND MADMarriage Rescue - Part 3Senior Pastor Keith StewartAugust 14, 2022Anger is a sign that there’s a problem that needs our attention. You should know, God intends for anger to be a visitor not a resident in your life. If we can learn how to make it a visitor that comes and goes, and not allow it to live in our hearts, we’ll create a climate in our relationships where we can deal in a positive way with things that go wrong.SERIES: Marriage RescueIt’s a hugely popular show on the Paramount Network and it’s called Bar Rescue. Jon Taffer, who has more than 40 years of experience in the business, offers his no-nonsense straight talk to struggling bar owners to help save their business and put them back on the road to success. What if there was such a person who could help us with our real life and relationships? What if a little no-nonsense straight talk about what it takes to build a healthy relationship could actually save our marriage and gets us back on the road to success? In this new series, Pastor Keith will share out of his 40-year relationship with Brenda the keys to help a couple move from status quo to spectacular – pointing out the stumbling blocks and steppingstones in achieving healthy, mutually-satisfying relationships.DISCUSSION QUESTIONS1. In this message, Pastor Keith discussed a lot about anger, what was your biggest take-a-way? Where did you feel personally challenged? On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the best), how well do you manage anger in your closest relationships? Is that the same score your spouse would give you?2. When it comes to conflict, there are five default ways of dealing with conflict. Which way best describes you? Have you always been this way? If not, what changed?• I’ll get them - MY WAY• I’ll get out - NO WAY• I’ll give in - YOUR WAY• I’ll go halfway - HALF WAY• I care and confront. - OUR WAY3. People tend to be one of two things, exploders or imploders, what way did you observe most in your parents, family members, teachers, or people in authority in your life?4. In the message, Pastor Keith shared the following quote from the highly respected Gottman Institute…“If your marriage is going to succeed – you need a minimum of 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative interaction.” – The Gottman InstituteShare your thoughts about this finding. Have you ever had a time in your marriage when that percentage wasn’t true in your relationship? What was the time like? Even when a marriage seems to be struggling or failing, beginning to express gratitude for your spouse will do wonders for your marriage. Right now, make a list of ten qualities or things your spouse does for which you are truly grateful. When you’re finished, share your list with your spouse, reading it out loud to them.5. Lionel Whitston said, “’Broken marriages begin to mend and communication is reestablished when one of the partners is willing to make a breakthrough and say, ’Lord, begin with me. I am the one who needs to change, to love more deeply and more wisely.’” Take some time to pray for yourself and others in the group. If you feel safe in doing so, share with the group what one thing you’d like to most see change in your own life.https://www.springcreekchurch.org/#realspringcreekchurch #marriagerescue #relationalbaggage #relationships #anger #mad