Mating in Captivity: Hot Sex vs. Happy Marriage and Erotic Fruit Bats

from Good Girls · host SJ and Kay

We read Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity and came out the other side with way more questions than answers, and a whole new appreciation for erotic fruit bats. In this episode, we talk why steamy romance in marriage is a surprisingly modern invention, how uncertainty and separateness fuel desire, and why the very things that make a great partnership (equality, familiarity, teamwork) can sometimes kill the lust. We explore touched-out parents, the pitfalls of hookup culture, power dynamics in the bedroom, cultural differences in how we approach sex, and whether a little mystery keeps things hot....though we both stink at that. Along the way we debate what counts as erotic and overshare. If you’ve ever wondered how to stay both best friends and lovers, this one’s for you...maybe, we don't land on any answers.

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