Men, Affection, Presence, and the importance of listening

Men often want affection and to feel value and signifigant in their relationship.  We often think we do this by being the "provider." However, there is a way to do this that has nothing to do with trying harder, providing more, and being "stronger."  We as men need to learn a new way to be present for those around us that will make them feel safe and encourage them to give us affection and love.